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[crapo2kl]

Hello my name is Karen Crapo and I am very new to this site. I do not have epilepsy but my best friend Generose Wilson did and passed away on June 22 2007. I miss her so much and I am trying to understand what happened because I can not live without her. I am looking for help so I can stop feeling so much pain.

If anyone wants to hear a young gurls terrible yet very sad story and help me cope, thats what im looking for.

cuz i must say i am not copping very well with the lost of my other half and i could use some insight.

[RobinN]

Hi Karen - I am glad that you decided to reach out. I was a bit older than you when I lost a very dear friend. It is heart wrenching to say the least. My friends mother did not want to do any kind of memorial service for her, so I took it upon myself to arrange for it. It was a way for me to release all of pain. Recently my sister lost her oldest son while I was visiting and that pain is at time unbearable.

Each person has to find a way to make peace with the fact that they will never hold, speak with, or see that person every again. For my sister and BIL it has been to pour their energy into volunteering. With time I think you will find your way to honor your friend. I doubt she would want to know that you are giving up on life.

I have read the other post you wrote in the Memorial room. One suggestion that comes to mind is to keep a gratitude journal. Things you are grateful for and reasons you are grateful that Generose was in your life. How she made your life better. Perhaps there are ways for you to honor her by carrying on a passion she had.

Brings to mind a father that lost his daughter in a car accident, and he told me she loved art. So he started an Art Gallery and named it after her. I was quite touched.

I think learning about Epilepsy and perhaps ways you can help others with E, will bring you out of despair and into the light again. Perhaps.....

[Birdbomb]

Hello Karen.

Sorry to hear about your loss. My best friend died from epilepsy when I was 19. It's hard enough to deal with death, but when it comes at a young age and as unexpected as your friend, it just seems so unfair.

You have found an excellent place for support and knowlege. Welcome

[Bernard]

Hi Karen, welcome to the forum.

We will try to help. Unfortunately, even with understanding, some pain can only be healed by time.

[tinasmom]

Karen
I am so sorry for your loss. I understand your pain as I lost my daughter to Sudden Unexplained Death in Epilepsy in August 2006. It's so hard to understand why our loved ones are taken away from us. We need to remember that their suffering is now over. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

[Nancy]

(((Karen))) I'm very sorry that happened to you.
Your are welcome to talk about that here all you want. We all are ready to listen

[Stacy]

Hi Karen,

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my mother to Epilepsy (and a heart attack) the day after Mother's Day, 1994. She was 46 and I was 24. I've had this problem for a long time now, and am desperately looking to cure it. The only thing I can advise is for you to move on. It's not easy, and it's not fun, but it's necessary. There's a bunch of new friends to make here.

[skillefer]

Hi Karen! I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. You'll find that there are alot of fantastic people here. If you need to talk, this is the place to do it. Death is hard, but especially when it's unexpected. You'll get through it. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you will. When my dad passed away, I didn't get a chance to say goodbye. So what I did was write him a letter telling him what a wonderful father he was, and everything that I was going to miss. Then I went ahead and set it on fire in the fireplace. It was my way of saying goodbye and starting the healing process. You might want to try it.

[WorriedMom]

(((((Karen)))) Welcome !

[Meetz1064]

I'm so sorry for your loss......

I, too, have lost several friends. None to E, but at about the same age as you are now. And it was not easy then. Time has helped to heal those wounds......they do still hurt from time to time tho.

Stay here and learn, it will help immensely, and I'm sure that Generose would want that for you. We will listen, and be here for you. And, you can be here for us.

((((HUGS))))

Meetz

[tinasmom]

One thing that helps us is going to the cemetary quite often. We leave cards, notes, newspaper articles, stuffed animals, etc. It seems to keep Tina a part of our lives.

[kelclynnluvsu]

Karen,
It's Kels. I joined here since you put it on Gen's memoral facebook. It's definitely been a tough year. And you know I'm always here for you. I love you. And I loved Gen soo much. She was complete amazing. If you ever need anything let me know<33

[TexasTravel]

Hi Karen,

Welcome. I am sure you will find much of what you are looking for here. There is a lot of information and people who understand your feelings and are happy to help.

[brain]

Karen

So sorry to hear the loss!