Freindship.

[hawke86]

Does anyone find it hard to make a friend?

[ashmstng]

If you want a real answer yes.. When I was young it was so hard to make friends. Everyone picked on me about me having seizures in school. Now everyone judges me by the way you look. Which it isnt the nicest thing to do and I dont like it. I never judge someone by what they look like. I am sorry if you are having trouble. I sure do understand what you mean.

[Georgiagirl88]

Hi Hawke,
You have a ton of friends here! Me included! I know it can be hard sometimes..but the people that count are friendly. It is so true about judging others..I try to see what is in someone's heart and on the inside. Are they kind, funny, do I enjoy talking to them..all of those things and more. It shouldn't matter how old someone is, or if they are pretty or handsome or smart etc... all those don't matter. It is what is inside that counts. Thanks being our friend here Hawke! And to all of our other friends too!

Michelle

[hawke86]

ashmstng,
I know what you mean when you say people judge you because of what you have. I have gone through all my life. Some people can be extremely mean,cruel and self-centered judging other people especially if that person has a disability. Judge because we have epilepsy/seizures doesn't make us dumb and stupid. We could be smarter then most people. I'm sure all of you people agree with me. I had a teacher tell me the reason most people call us those names is because they're jealous of us. I hope everyone has a good day.
Hawke

[Georgiagirl88]

I totally agree with you Hawke! : )

Michelle

[tinasmom]

It is not our place to judge others. Unfortunately, many people judge others before getting to know them. I've had friends that people told me I would not get along with. I used to have a very hard time making friends because I was very shy. People today can't believe that I was ever shy. I guess that as I got older, I really didn't care what people thought of me and finally came out of my shell.

[hawke86]

I wish that I could come out of my shell. I'm still stuck in my shell.

[Georgiagirl88]

Hawke,

Come out of that shell!! We won't judge you..you're a friend! I know you have a big heart!! Tell us about yourself. What are you like? Anything you want to share about you. Tell us something special about yourself. What makes you who you are? Everyone is unique. : ))

Michelle

[hawke86]

What I'm like now or what I was like in the past? Which do you want to know? Michelle.

[Georgiagirl88]

Hawke,

Whatever you would like to share.. when I was younger..I was much quieter and I guess more shy in certain instances. Don't ask me how I was ever a cheerleader. You have to be pretty loud and and fairly outgoing. I didn't have a problem with that. But one on one was harder for me..say first dates. My husband laughs now and says he thought I was shy and and I really came out of my shell. I love talking to people. Anybody..I will start talking to people at the grocery store..appts. you name it. I love people. There's something about me.

Michelle

[RobinN]

Hawke, I realized that my true friends will be few, and yet I have quite a lot of acquaintances. Others that I don't want to put any energy into.

I use to be very shy, until I had children, and began to stand up for them and myself more.

[tinasmom]

Those you can't accept you the way you are, are not worthy of being your friends. A true friend will stand beside you no matter what.

[Georgiagirl88]

That is so true Laura.. And Robin, my Mom always said you only have a few real, true friends in life. I believe that. I have a few girlfriends/husbands and wives that are truly best friends for yrs.. They are there no matter what. Good or bad..the others are more friendly acquaintances.
Michelle

[hawke86]

I was a lot more quieter when I was growing up. I always had problems at a job interview. I out grew most of it.

[Bernard]

I don't have problems making friends. I have a few very close friends - ones I could call any time and talk to about anything. I have tons of acquaintences who could be friends if I cared to put forth time and effort into cultivating relationships. Unfortunately, time is a precious and limited resource.

[hawke86]

I always had trouble making friends.

[hawke86]

I always have trouble talking about things. I always freeze up at my appointments. My doctor has to always guess what I'm going through. I always have trouble expressing myself and how I feel.

[RobinN]

Maybe you just need to write it down before you go, so that you don't have to think on the spot. Hand him your list, and let him begin the discussion.

[stilldancing_98]

I think I am more like Bernard in this. I never had any problems making friends. My family was very social. But I have very few I can call up anytime about what is going on in my life. That are totally non judgemental. But I do love them dearly.

[ashmstng]

Hawke,
I agree with everyone here on what they said. They are right. Like they said come out of that shell. If not now, you will some time. It does take time to do, but you will. When I was in school I was very shy and a teachers pet. Now I am slowly coming out of my shell. I am learning to talk more to others. Especially because of my job and what I want to go to school for I will have to. Somedays I dont want to talk at all. I guess it depends how the person, looks at me or treats me and I just leave them alone and talk to them again. If they want to talk to me they can come and talk to me. But I can say I do have friends I can trust and pick up the phone to call. I hope you get better at it.