Your wrong!

[sfrancis]

Had another fight with my mother (mom). We (I) were doing an irrigation repair design istaltionI could have used that horse to run away on. I've worked; nursery, landscape, landscape maintence for 30+ years. I know my way around an irrigation job, I installed the one we are working on! 40 years ago so I don't know where exactly the pipe is; but I KNOW where it is NOT! So here I am doing, what "it can't be done that way" but we (I) do it that way. "Why did i quit drinking", because copious amounts of bourbon don't work when you are epileptic that's why.
I am 57yo when it comes to mom sfrancis is wrong, always has been always will be it does not matter what it is sfrancis is WRONG! Who is the Lone Ranger, called in for any and all "emergencies"? You got it, sfrancis. Where is my botle of Advil? When I move back in with her, when she needs full time mother sitter I wil be buying it by the case.

[hootie]

Sounds like you had a frustrating day!
Good thing you can vent to your friends here at CWE!

[Belinda1961]

Have you tried telling your mother that you just refuse to argue with her and you plan to live your life as you see best.That's basically what I had to tell my mother.

Belinda

[nicholasscott21]

I was always in the wrong as far as mother was concerned- she had a drink problem, it was always about her. Then one day I exploded down the telephone to her and we never spoke again- eleven years later she died- no one told me. I changed my name and started my life without her. That was 12years ago. Do I regret it? No, she would never have changed and it was making me ill with low self-esteem all the time I had contact with her.

I have not stopped loving her, I just didn't like her in the end. Sounds extreme, I know, but I got it off of my chest now. Love isn't a one way street.

Nick

[sfrancis]

i am on the way to being the one that HAS to care of mom; brother will do most any thing but has life in other town, sister ........... well she stops by as an honored guest once a week. i am the one not working living in town and i want the family home so. i am learning she is going to be the controle freak from hell, always has been. i just have to tell her how it is going to be stand my ground and make like a "duck and don't give a blank-you know how that ends. i have to learn that i am becoming the parent and she the child.
from my 4 sets of grandparents i got; 2 doses of hard headed beileerant 1/2 mean and 2 doses of "that's the way you want to play. ok we can do that". watch your back, that second pair is dangerous. i get to the end of my rope tie a knot and hang on. then i rant and rave here to blow the steam. got away today things went; wacky, crazy, stand on your head and laugh till they comit you. as i type this i am laughing. thanks for and never stop caring. have a good one and don't let the turkies win!

[sfrancis]

niChOlaS, sorry for how things worked out for you. i am too hard headed, with a dose of mean, you would have to family heritage on both sides. lots of love but, read my response to Melinda1961. just need to vent now and then.
thanks for caring

[nicholasscott21]

My father had died before my mother.. I think he was the link to us staying together.
Thanks for your response
Take care

Nick