Hi everyone!
I was after some advice because I am in a situation where I don't know what I should do, please share any advice, on here or through pm if you can, I will greatly appreciate it!
2 years and 8 months ago I had my first tonic clonic seizure 3 weeks after I had our first son. It was nocturnal and I can't remember a thing. Only that I was pretty angry that I being woken up when I was (finally) in deep sleep and the baby wasn't crying I didn't understand why there were people in our room and why they were being so loud and annoying.
It turned out that my husband had awoken to what later we found out was the pre tonic clonic seizure 'cry' and then the seizure started and he couldn't stop it. Thinking I was dying he ran outside yelling for help (one of our neighbours ended up calling the ambulance and helping him) and coming back until the ambulance came. It must have looked pretty hardcore, a new mum with messy bed hair, bloody face and bloody pyjamas from biting my tongue really bad. I was taken to hospital I spent two nights there and after I had to go to the neurologist and do all the MRIs EEGs etc.
We were doing research by the time I had my next appointment with my neuro, and I found out that new mums sometime get a seizure within the first 6 weeks after birth (thats what all the midwives were saying to us in the hospital too) because it's a big stress on your whole body. But that you aren't classed as an epileptic from one seizure anyway. So when the neurologist said my left temperol lobe was slightly bigger and that he wanted to start me on keppra ( which was a pretty new drug on the market and also meant I wouldn't be able to breastfeed) I thought it was a load of bs, and the Dr said he couldnt force me.
Anyway, 6 months later I had another seizure again early in the morning, this time my husband called my mum to call the ambulance, he reckons he just blocked out again. So this time round I didnt have a choice I had to start taking keppra 500mg, one in the morning one at night. it was the worst experience ever, being in a haze constantly for months on end. I got really depressed and most probabaly endlessly complained to him and not once did I think about what it was like for him.
8 months ago, our second boy was born, we were both paranoid as that I would get a seizure during the birth and if not then then not long after (because we kept being told that seizures are caused by stress and lack of sleep, labour and new born bingo!) but all went well. We have since moved overseas. 6 weeks ago out of the blue I had another tonic clonic seizure, at 530am while sleeping. He said as soon as he heard me "chewing" he knew the seizure was coming and tried to wake me up but then that weird cry thing happened and it started, and he couldnt do anything but lie me on my side.
So it was back, which was super bad because we both thought it was over. So now instead of only having a year left on meds, my keppra was now up to 2 x 750mg. So anyway, again I didnt even think of him, I got over it easy this time, I have epilepsy, that's it, at least it's at night right?
Then we moved back into our newly renovated house. After a few nights of sleeping in our new bed together, to my complete suprise he said "look I cant do this, I am not getting any sleep in here next to you, I am constantly worrying and listening if youre ok" and moved out to the lounge. I was really annoyed, I thought it was some stupid excuse so he could watch football and tennis as late as he wanted. But it went for over a week, and then I started to worry that it was something wrong with our marriage. So since then I have sat down with him to find out whats going on and he keeps on saying that even out there he can barely sleep because even during the day its bad, because he is always worried that I am going to have a seizure, but when it gets dark he is super worried (he has come running in a couple of times when I moved, or I was getting up to check on the boys etc). He said he feels alone, he doesnt know what to do.
We both started reading up on this whole epilepsy thing again, and I found a lot of forums in English, like this one, about family and carers,and how there are so many of you guys out there who are suffering way more than the person with epilepsy. And I am so sorry I never even suspected this, I didnt even bother to find out till now, how horrible it is for people to watch others going through it!
To make things even better, 4 days ago (6 weeks since my last seizure and my keppra being upped) I had another tonic clonic seizure.
He is a lot worse, he is getting pretty close to zero sleep. I try and get him to understand that I cant even remember anything, that I am completely fine, it doesnt change anything. He says he "knows and completely understands" but that that doesnt change that feeling of complete horror when it happens or how horrible it is just to think about it.
What should I do?!?
Please help me guys, I am really worried about him! Maybe someone as a carer or family member of someone with epilepsy can give us some advice as to what he can do, or some info as to what you guys have done???
Any information or advice will be greatly appreciated!
I was after some advice because I am in a situation where I don't know what I should do, please share any advice, on here or through pm if you can, I will greatly appreciate it!
2 years and 8 months ago I had my first tonic clonic seizure 3 weeks after I had our first son. It was nocturnal and I can't remember a thing. Only that I was pretty angry that I being woken up when I was (finally) in deep sleep and the baby wasn't crying I didn't understand why there were people in our room and why they were being so loud and annoying.
It turned out that my husband had awoken to what later we found out was the pre tonic clonic seizure 'cry' and then the seizure started and he couldn't stop it. Thinking I was dying he ran outside yelling for help (one of our neighbours ended up calling the ambulance and helping him) and coming back until the ambulance came. It must have looked pretty hardcore, a new mum with messy bed hair, bloody face and bloody pyjamas from biting my tongue really bad. I was taken to hospital I spent two nights there and after I had to go to the neurologist and do all the MRIs EEGs etc.
We were doing research by the time I had my next appointment with my neuro, and I found out that new mums sometime get a seizure within the first 6 weeks after birth (thats what all the midwives were saying to us in the hospital too) because it's a big stress on your whole body. But that you aren't classed as an epileptic from one seizure anyway. So when the neurologist said my left temperol lobe was slightly bigger and that he wanted to start me on keppra ( which was a pretty new drug on the market and also meant I wouldn't be able to breastfeed) I thought it was a load of bs, and the Dr said he couldnt force me.
Anyway, 6 months later I had another seizure again early in the morning, this time my husband called my mum to call the ambulance, he reckons he just blocked out again. So this time round I didnt have a choice I had to start taking keppra 500mg, one in the morning one at night. it was the worst experience ever, being in a haze constantly for months on end. I got really depressed and most probabaly endlessly complained to him and not once did I think about what it was like for him.
8 months ago, our second boy was born, we were both paranoid as that I would get a seizure during the birth and if not then then not long after (because we kept being told that seizures are caused by stress and lack of sleep, labour and new born bingo!) but all went well. We have since moved overseas. 6 weeks ago out of the blue I had another tonic clonic seizure, at 530am while sleeping. He said as soon as he heard me "chewing" he knew the seizure was coming and tried to wake me up but then that weird cry thing happened and it started, and he couldnt do anything but lie me on my side.
So it was back, which was super bad because we both thought it was over. So now instead of only having a year left on meds, my keppra was now up to 2 x 750mg. So anyway, again I didnt even think of him, I got over it easy this time, I have epilepsy, that's it, at least it's at night right?
Then we moved back into our newly renovated house. After a few nights of sleeping in our new bed together, to my complete suprise he said "look I cant do this, I am not getting any sleep in here next to you, I am constantly worrying and listening if youre ok" and moved out to the lounge. I was really annoyed, I thought it was some stupid excuse so he could watch football and tennis as late as he wanted. But it went for over a week, and then I started to worry that it was something wrong with our marriage. So since then I have sat down with him to find out whats going on and he keeps on saying that even out there he can barely sleep because even during the day its bad, because he is always worried that I am going to have a seizure, but when it gets dark he is super worried (he has come running in a couple of times when I moved, or I was getting up to check on the boys etc). He said he feels alone, he doesnt know what to do.
We both started reading up on this whole epilepsy thing again, and I found a lot of forums in English, like this one, about family and carers,and how there are so many of you guys out there who are suffering way more than the person with epilepsy. And I am so sorry I never even suspected this, I didnt even bother to find out till now, how horrible it is for people to watch others going through it!
To make things even better, 4 days ago (6 weeks since my last seizure and my keppra being upped) I had another tonic clonic seizure.
He is a lot worse, he is getting pretty close to zero sleep. I try and get him to understand that I cant even remember anything, that I am completely fine, it doesnt change anything. He says he "knows and completely understands" but that that doesnt change that feeling of complete horror when it happens or how horrible it is just to think about it.
What should I do?!?
Please help me guys, I am really worried about him! Maybe someone as a carer or family member of someone with epilepsy can give us some advice as to what he can do, or some info as to what you guys have done???
Any information or advice will be greatly appreciated!