Giving Up!

[hawke86]

Has anyone had thoughts of giving up on life? Has anyone felt this way? If you don't saying.

[speber]

...I'm too pissed off at that point to let it (the urge to give in) beat me down any further.

I do something different (than follow that urge to give in) just to spite it.

It's not that "life's too precious".......it's more that I don't like being pushed around!



Hang tough hawke86...you can get thru it
Speber

PS. I recommend 'Starry Starry Night' in Speber's Auditorium!...it might cheer you up!

[Georgiagirl88]

Hi Hawke,

I do understand your feelings. I am obviously up in the middle of the night right now feeling sad, crappy and confused to say the least. My seizures are really weird nocturnal ones and not yet controlled. I feel alone because I can't really share much with anyone because I don't know of others with similar situations. Anyways... Life can be very hard sometimes..where we just don't know where to turn or what to do.
My Mom just died 3 weeks ago..which is especially hard this weekend with Mother's Day. I do not know about your life or seizures, but just in general, I can relate. It is easy to say just don't give up..but we can't. I just know in my heart there is a plan for all of us. Even at our lowest times..you've got to believe things will get better!! Don't know what your religious beliefs are..but for me..I know I am never alone. Even when I feel very scared or lonely. So I find comfort knowing this. I always try to remind myself that I have felt worse and just when I feel my lowest, things begin to improve or I will find new hope. So don't give up...talk to all of us. we are all here for each other!! I hope whatever your concerns are or you are feeling will get better for you. lighten your load and share your burden.. that always helps!!!!!!!
Take care of yourself and do NOt give up!! Each day really is a gift..even if we can't see it right now.

Take care!
Michell

[BuckeyeFan]

Hey Hawke - Yes, I do get those feelings of giving up and have told myself several times that I WAS giving up. Told myself I was tired of fighting E. Told myself I didn't want this to keep going this way. Told myself that it would be so easy to just quit working, quit my hobbies, and isolate myself from the rest of the world.

HOWEVER, each time something happens and before I know it, I am fighting it again and getting on with my life. I can't even say what brings me back. I don't know if it is faith or hope or just my core personality to want to continue. But whatever it is, I have made it this long and hopefully will continue.

Bottom Line is if you do reach that point of despair where you want to give up, don't do anything else. Just sit there for awhile and rest. Then reach out for life again. You don't have to come back, smiling and laughing, but just keep coming back.

I find music helps me and just typing my thoughts out here on the computer. Even if no one else reads them or agrees with them, just venting them helps me.

I hope the sun shines on you a little more today.

[kris1230]

Hi Hawke

I do get the feelings of just giving up and they're hard to overcome. I just recently had one of those days before I graduated and I was in venting to my dean and I said LIFE SUCKS and you know what she said to me....Yeah it does, but only sometimes. She told me it's okay to feel that way and to feel angry and sad sometimes, but just let it out, and don't hold it in, because it only builds up and explodes. She also said she knows I'm not going to give up because I wouldn't have been in there screaming at her, crying, if I was going to give up. She gave me a hug and told me that she loved me and that was my good.

~here's a HUG for you!!! Anytime you need one, just give a shout.

[hawke86]

I almost gave up,but I decided not to, there's to many things I haven't seen yet.

[haird18]

Hawke,
Like me me dealing with mental illness it crosses my mind quite often because of battling too many problems at once that it seems there is no return to feelin better. We all get to that point in life that it is harder than others, and if somebody says they don't go through rough patches in their lives aren't telling the truth! And as people with epilepsy we go through alot of stress. So hawke do me a favor and always stay in touch with me because I am an expert in this field! Just remember take care of yourself first before anything else!!

David Hair

[hawke86]

Very Good Advice.

[Meetz1064]

glad that you decided not to give up! YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!:bigsm ile:

[hawke86]

Thanks Everyone for understanding what I was going through. Again Thanks.

[stilldancing_98]

Good for you Hawke, boy this is a great thread.

[jgbmartin]

I have been dealing with depression for years. Then had my accident and all my surgeries and just when I thought it was turning the corner, the seizures started.
My therapist had told me that teens and young adults that have a parent commit suicide had 25% greater chance of following in the parent's footsteps. That put it into perspective for me. I feel bad that my 24 year old son has to live with me to help with my medical problems...but he has told me that he would rather do that than to live without me in his life.

Remember, you may only be one person to the world, but you are the world to at least one person!

[Georgiagirl88]

Welcome to the site JMartin!
I loved your last sentence! Thank you for reminding me of it! You know what..it is o.k. to accept help from others. It isn't a sign of weakness. We all can help others..in all different ways..and then also accept help. Whether it be kind words or a good long talk to unload, or even being driven somewhere or helped being bathed or fed for some people here. It is all about being here for each other. You may not even realize you are helping someone..by your strength in your own adversity..you show others about courage. This is a good lesson for all of us here. I know there is someone here in particular that I truly admire and am amazed at his bravery every day of his life!!!

Michelle : )

[Loudmouth]

My therapist had told me that teens and young adults that have a parent commit suicide had 25% greater chance of following in the parent's footsteps.

Is this true?? I have suffered depression on and off for years, in part due to having complex partial seiures for 8 yrs without a diagnosis,and thinking i was going crazy...!, I have attempted suicide 4 times between the ages of 14 and 17, I was even sectioned in a mental health ward at the age of 15 for a nervous breakdown ( my seizures started at 14, and i was being abused at the time). I have been managing my depression okay for the last 10 years,but since my epilepsy has significantly worsened and badly affected my quality of life, it is back with a vengeance. My dad committed suicide when i was 10,the anniversary of his death is the 3rd july but he actually did it the day after my 10th birthday,so its never a truly happy occasion since. My depression worries me but whenever i get really low,i find a bit of craft i can really get into,or an online friend i can talk to,or someone i can phone.

[jgbmartin]

Actually the therapist said for the first year after a suicide of a parent, the suicide % is 75% for teens and young adults. So sorry that you have been struggling since your father's suicide. Depression is hard....but when you have health issues, meds/mental state can make it seem impossible. I have found gardening to be good therapy. A friend is getting me interested in photography now...I think hobbies that allow you see the beauty around you is good for your mental state too. I also have found strenght in my faith in God.

[stilldancing_98]

Ok . It is hard. It is. But there are things we have to to for ourselves to pick ourselves up. My ten year old does not understand my depression. It is only right that he have a normal childhood. Really, try neurofeedback. Im taking it to the dr. for my son and me today.I am not throwing my life away because of the pain.

[BuckeyeFan]

Someone after my heart!!!

I have found gardening to be good therapy.

I agree with the therapy of the gardening. It can be so peaceful working out there by yourself, plus it is so neat to watch things grow from little seeds (especially pumpkins).

It has helped me through some rough times. I also tend to think about my deceased father (in upbeat ways) while gardening. He really loved growing things.



StillD - you make a great point that we have to strive to not put our burdens on the children.

[stilldancing_98]

He thought it was a good idea. But do you know that Seattle has not done a study since 1972. And I spoke with other patients today that were afraid of it? I think we are getting something started here. My mom said she remembered when it was a big deal back in the early 70s.We are all going to be ok. We can't bring each other down. It's an up mode or down mode. We can listen to each other but lets try and be on the up side . Is that ok with you guys?

[josieb]

Hawke:

It's apparently just another thing that we all have in common. When it comes to dealing with the seizures, the meds, and the stress of just everyday life, so many of us have the thoughts of how much easier it would be to just give up. I know I've been at that point on more than one occasion. But, for some reason, we all continue to go on living, and that's all we can do - day by day - hoping for a better day tomorrow. I wish you well!
- Josie

[stilldancing_98]

My mother is just now understanding a bit of it. When I get depressed I just sleep. I can not deal with the world. But my mom has helped me find secrets. like going for a walk .So I could see why gardening would help. It's energizing. And keeps you in shape. I just love to be around people. Drinking my coffee.