loss

[homemom360]

this week we had to deal with the worst loss a child can have, that of a family pet. we lost our house cat of nearly 7 yrs to old age. he was the nicest cat we had had in awhile and my husband and i were convinced he was the reincarnation of the cat i had when we met. the strange thing about him though was he had an unhealthy obsession with feet he would rather rub against your foot then have you pet him with your hand. bare feet were his favorite. he also got car sick and we had to make sure he did not eat for at least eight to twelve hrs before we moved each time or we had a mess to clean up. he was a wonderful creature and for the first time in yrs i saw my husband cry. nothing gets to him more than animals. our daughter took it hard too. she understands death, and all that but it's different when it's your own pet. we decided that we will not replace him right away, give ourselves some healing time. kinda like a breakup. we don't want any rebound mistake. i told my daughter the next one will probably be a small caged animal. something easy to deal with, that she can help care for and learn some responsibility with. i hated to loose him and will probably miss him most of all because he kept me company when my daughter was at school and my husband was at work. gave me some one to pay attention to that was happy to see me.
this post is in loving and happy memory to Nicholas our cat, and in thanks for all the years of love he gave us. we will all miss you... this is also dedicated to anyone else that has lost a beloved pet.

[skillefer]

Oh I am so sorry to hear that! I remember the pain of losing my first cat. She was my best friend, and moved to California with me. My prayers and good wishes will be with you and your family.

[RobinN]

Not much tougher than that. So sorry to hear about your loss.
Ours was taken away from us a year (July 11th).

http://rednews5.blogspot.com/2007/07/wesley.html

It is a very deep ache when it happens, yet we were shown the way to a new dear kitty. Not a replacement, but a new family member, and he is the best cat I have ever had. I am sure you will find something to give your spare love to.

[Meetz1064]

to hear about the loss of your pet. It is so very sad when we lose a pet.

You're right to take some time to heal, though. And take as much time as you need to...don't rush it. Maybe you can make a memory book......

[Birdbomb]

It's so sad to lose a pet. We had to put our dog to sleep 2 years ago as she had cancer. I still miss her, she was a very sweet animal. We waited 6 months before we we got another dog.

When Tippy died, I bought my girls little gold lockets to wear around their necks, we called them their "Tippy Hearts" They could have a nice reminder of their beloved dog. It seemed to ease the passage for them and gave them the opportunity to talk about their grief because they had a story to tell about their little Tippy Hearts.

[BuckeyeFan]

Sorry to hear about your pet cat (and everyone else as well).

We had to have our dog of 13 years put to sleep a little over a year ago. We think she had strokes and at the end was having severe seizures. The seizure part of it made it a difficult decision as that was rather personal.

She had lost her vision and would wonder around in circles. When I could not get her to drink water, I knew it was time.

[morgan381]

I'm so sorry for your and your family's loss. Pets really become a part of the family. I think you're right to take time to fully heal before you get another pet.

I remember when I lost my dog. I got him after I decided I didn't want to have any more children...he was my surrogate 'baby'. We live in a rural area and have about 7 acres of land, and our 'neighbor' to the south is a pasture where a few cattle graze. It was mother's day. We went to church, then to my parents' house for lunch. When we got home, we discovered he had gotten his collar tangled in the south fence and strangled himself trying to get free. I was absolutely hysterical!!! It was bad enough to lose him, but that way... Right then and there, I decided that I didn't want any more pets...6 months or so later, we were given a rescued dog. Immediately, I made hubby replace the cattle panel fence with one she couldn't get snagged on. Now she's a part of the family.

[homemom360]

thank you every one for your touching words and sympathetic hearts, it is so nice to have a place to release and know that people care, thank you.

[Loudmouth]

my heart goes out to you and your children. I cried for hours when my dog had to be put down that we had had all my childhood...I was 17....I still miss Pippa. It took me until 3 years ago to get another dog...Another black lab! this time male. But I will Never forget my pipsqueak, who used to be at the door every day when I got in from school. Give your children lots of extra hugs, and time to reminisce about their favourite memories of their cat, when they are ready.Maybe you could make a special scrapbook to remember him/her by?

[ashmstng]

I am soo sorry to hear of your loss of your pet. I have a cat and dog and I have no idea what I would do if I loss any of them. They have become part of the family. My dog was given to me by my half-brother. The cat we adopted. I feel it is like loosing a family member not a pet. You get so close to them. I really hope you get through this and your kids also. Take care of yourself.

[homemom360]

i posted this on the creative writing page but decided to put it here to for all that don't visit there.

You are gone

Here kitty kitty, I repeat my calls
But they echo hollow off the walls
You aren't here to run to me
It's not the way it use to be
As i sit and watch my show
I am slowly filled with woe
The spot beside me on the couch is cold
And we're short one in our household
I have no evening dish to fill
Or water in the kitchen I might spill
Your endless demands have ceased
But my loneliness has increased
To many you were just a cat
To me though you were more than that
When I was happy
You were there in a snappy
When I was upset
You helped me to forget
You gave me someone to care for
But Damn It not anymore
There is a whole in my heart
Now that we are apart
I will miss your purr
And the feel of your fur
The way you rubbed my feet
Or begged for something to eat
I will always remember though
How your eyes always had a glow
You never judged
You never budged
You were my companion and my friend
I am glad I was with you in the end
Where ever you may be now
Look down on me and send a MEOW
I have something to confess
I love you Nicholas....

dedicated to my cat Nick, and for anyone who has lost a dear pet.
He was one damn good cat!!!!

[ashmstng]

I wanted to say that this is a great poem I cried just reading it. Sorry again for your loss.

[Meetz1064]

Great poem, BTW........and I'm not into poems, too much....