Need advice

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Welcome to this site. I can fully understand a stubborn persons issues in dealing with these types of issues because I am extremely stubborn. I had a seizure at age 4 after falling down a flight of stairs and not until I was 37 did I have another tonic clonic seizure. First was at work and was just confussing because I had no clue what had happened. The 2nd one was the worst for me because my wife got to watch it happen. No matter how kind and great she is about the days I don't feel good, I cannot help but feel ashamed to ask for anything from her.
Being stubborn odds are he cannot stand a change in his life like this and feels it is intolerable, unacceptable, and even 'freakish'. Acceptance of having something 'wrong' with us can be very difficult no matter what it is. Best thing is to find a local support group of men that suffer from seizures and let him work out some issues with their support. Sometimes the best support is helping the ones you love find the support they need and understanding that you cannot always directly help them through this. My wife is extremely good with this. She often has said "Find what helps you get through it but remember I am always here." She truely has been great throughout it all.
As far as the medical issues go it will take time. Just remember in any path to greater knowledge and understanding that it requires a journey. How long is an unknown. You both have your challenges ahead but you WILL be strong and you WILL make progress.
Based on your other family issues I would say that you have been through similar but he is not your child so it will be different.
For the record on stress it is not always a factor, almost all of my seizures have occured when I was under no stress at all. I was relaxed and at the time life was going good. Plus you and your kids are not like an allergic reation that creates a seizure. I would bet he has had stressful times before you were in his life. Don't blame yourself or your kids. My 2 kids put more stress on me than anyone thing in my life but they are not a cause for me and I never want them to think so.

Well I have gone on enough (sorry if it put you to sleep). I hope this helps in some way and really wish like everyone else here that all goes well.