Stupid "syster in law"

[Nenne]

I was just talking my BF about the EP abit and we ware watching this youtube video where a woman gets a fit. Anyway he then says that when he told his big sister who is psychologist that his GF had EP she looked at him and said " u know this people are a bit strange and u should look out" And that he has to realize that its such a big thing to be with somebody with EP and so on!

What!!! Im just so angry! so without meeting me, or knowing anything about my EP this woman who should know better sense she is a Psychologist just blows me of as an idiot!

Iv meet her now of course and she is always nice and stuff but it does explain some of the strange things she asks me!

Guess i had to high believes in people with a eduction. Ajj just needed to blow of some steam!

[BuckeyeFan]

Unfortunately, the fact that some people spend 4, 8, or even more years in a university, it does not always equate with intelligence or common sense. Yes, a psychologist should fully understand EP, but sometimes people take classes learning only enough to pass the tests and never really put it all together.

If your sister-in-law is persistent in this matter, I would challenge her to go out on the street and point out those with epilepsy. Even though as many as 1 in 150 around her may have it, she probably won't be able to identify any of them.

[Nenne]

I just dont get it, its like i have heard comments like that before but from really dumb people and i have always laughed it of and been able to make them look even more stupid.
But somebody like her that is supposedly smart and educated it just make e very sad! im not sure that i can ever have the same respect for her again and that feels a bit sad. I just wonder how she is gonne be able to help people with that attitude?

Maybe im just working my self up im gonne calm down and drink a nice cup of tea.

[LynnW]

I don't know, ya seem kinda strange to me.


Just kidding. Unfortunately, sometimes really great people come with really unfortunate in-laws. My husband's family is completely dysfunctional, but I wouldn't trade him for the world. Just realize that you have no control over her, but you can control your reaction to her. Ignore it. It doesn't change who you are.

[RobinN]

^^^^--------The FanMan said it very well.

My motto in times like this, is to kill her with kindness. If you are serious about this relationship, you need to keep the communication open with the SIL. At some point you might want to sit her down and share your story. But until then, just be the best Nenne can be, and he (and she) will love you for who you are. If this gets between the two of you, then it wasn't right from the beginning.

[Nenne]

Hey, Thanks for the respond i feel much better!

My BF wont listen to her, he is not that keen on her. She is pretty dominant and has a habit of talking down to people. And what i know is that she likes me, and sense they are not that close we dont really see her very often. And im pretty good with being kind I always though that in long run the nice person will win!


But when it come to the family i think my family is much more dysfunctional then his I feel sorry for the guy he doesn't know whats waiting haha

[skillefer]

Welcome nene! Just remember, education does not necessarily mean a person has wisdom or class. There's idiots at all levels of academia.

[TeeTees]

Well, she sounds like someone I would like to meet, and put straight.

I studied Psychology for a short while, until I discovered it wasn't as interesting as I thought it was gonna be. To be honest, I find more interesting things on sites like these, where you can actually discuss and work with people on a proper scale.

The teacher in class told us once, 'there is no right answer to anything in life'....

....I guess that's how your SIL passed the exams ?

[brain]

Folks on You Tube are actually "BANNED" in U.K. and
I lost that link in the U.K. News! Dang!

1) Partially because a lot of what is shown on the
You Tube isn't really true Epileptic Seizures

2) Some of it is 'garbage' (my translation to put it
bluntly).

3) While true, some of it were genuine seizures, but
majority of them were not.

I wished I knew where or how I could revive that news,
anyone from United Kingdom could pull it up or retrieve
it and post the link here ~ it was very interesting reading!

[Nenne]

Good morning

i guess i just put to much faith into education, but i guess i should have learn of that the few psychologist i have meet have been very strange people, But i get a feeling that messing about in peoples head does make u see things in a different light then the rest of us.

Anyway i was not able to write anything yesterday sense my BF got some bad news from home and we might have to go and meet all his family this weekend. So im right now busy trying to deal with my BF not talking to me and pretending to be okey. He is at work now so i can get my things done. But im starting to feel like im living in pretend world Just bad news after bad news, but im guessing its one of those years when just everything goes to hell. like they say everything comes in 3 so im hoping this is the 3 thing. I already lost a family friend and my kitten (i know a kitten is a small thing, but it was pretty horrible to see it die) so im a bit sick of people dying or being sick.

Aja time to start the day, its not worse then what u make it to

[LynnW]

Good morning

Just bad news after bad news, but im guessing its one of those years when just everything goes to hell. like they say everything comes in 3 so im hoping this is the 3 thing. I already lost a family friend and my kitten (i know a kitten is a small thing, but it was pretty horrible to see it die) so im a bit sick of people dying or being sick.

Aja time to start the day, its not worse then what u make it to

Nenne, I can totally sympathize. I think the entire month of March was one complete horror for my family. And I can tell you, it doesn't necessarily stop at 3. Some close family members had serious medical problems, my husband lost a beloved aunt (she was never married, and my husband was the closest thing to a son that she ever had), and our faithful family dog of 14 years died. I was also diagnosed with epilepsy in March, and began taking meds - that was not fun. I think when so many major bad things happen all at once, it makes even the smaller setbacks harder to bear. (Like your SIL saying stupid stuff).

But I just gritted my teeth and plowed through the days, knowing that summer would be here soon, and with it, the return of the sun and better days. And things are looking better. And as a consolation, we have been blessed here with one of the most beautiful springs that I can remember.

Things will get better.

[skillefer]

Yup...things will get better. April and May were rough months for my family. Between hubby having strep throat for 3 weeks, my hearing loss, and finding out that my godfather is in the process of dying...it's been rough... But, things will get better. My hearing is improving....slowly...but it is..and my hubby finally got over his strep (can't believe he never had strep throat before), and we finally got a house...so things are getting better.

[RobinN]

I can't add much, other than sometimes Life is just not "fair".
Going through a bit of my own, but I really try to look toward the positives, and capture the good moments.

[hawke86]

Robin,
I agree with you sometimes life is not fair. I have gone through my share.