Hey, so I've been dating a girl who is epileptic for a few months. As the relationship has been getting more serious and I learn more about her epilepsy, I've found myself worrying about it a lot. I was completely ignorant of the disorder before I met her, I never understood the dangers or burdens of the disorder, and always assumed every epileptic had defined triggers (the stereotypical flashing lights causing a seizure).
Well she has had approximately 1 seizure a month since we've been dating. And from what I can tell (haven't seen her seize) they are tonic-clonic seizures...she loses consciousness and tenses up. It sometimes results in her shoulder dislocating, and she fell in the shower the seizure before last. I guess she has been lucky that they've all happened at home (and sometimes while sitting on the couch or in her bed), but I sometimes lay awake at night just worrying about what could happen next. And my worrying is only compounded by the fact that I simply don't know a lot about the disorder.
I just want to here some outside experience and perspectives. She is the first epileptic I've known, so I don't really have anyone to talk to about it. Sometimes I'll find myself researching it and worrying (which led me to this forum), and I find comfort when I hear about people living long and relatively normal lives with the disorder. But due to the varying degrees of epilepsy, I don't really have a reference point to gauge these stories.
So what do you guys think? Any stories or reassurance to help comfort me? I just want to be able to sleep a comfortable 8 hours for once, haha.
Oh, and a side note. I get migraines (used to get serious ones about 4 times a week for a year) so I see a neurologist. And one thing we learned about each other within the first week of dating, we see the same neurologist. So I was thinking of asking her if I could tag along to an appointment, or maybe ask our neurologist about the disorder when I see him next (although I'm sure he won't disclose information about the patient to me).
Some basic info to get out of the way:
She is 22 (I'm 23), and she has been diagnosed with it since she was 18. So this isn't something completely new to her, and she's said the seizures were more frequent in the past, but they've been more manageable for the past couple years. But she did say that in the past couple months they have been more frequent--before the more recent seizures she hadn't experienced one in a while (maybe a year? I'll have to ask). One of her triggers is apparently her allergy to gluten, so she eats a gluten-free diet. She takes a daily preventative medication, Lamictal XR.
Some questions:
How severe does her epilepsy sound? I have a hard time sorting through information, I've read cases where the person just goes into a blank stare every now and then, to people who die in there sleep after frequent severe seizures. Does hers sound like a relatively normal case?
How clearly defined are most epileptics triggers? Despite her avoiding gluten and taking daily medication, does it sound like her treatment might not be effective? I'm not entirely sure how severe her disorder was before she took the medication or discovered her allergy. So I think this is something I can ask her.
Thanks, and like I said I just want some outside perspective to help ease my mind. Because worrying while not knowing exactly what you should be worrying about is a pretty crappy feeling.
Well she has had approximately 1 seizure a month since we've been dating. And from what I can tell (haven't seen her seize) they are tonic-clonic seizures...she loses consciousness and tenses up. It sometimes results in her shoulder dislocating, and she fell in the shower the seizure before last. I guess she has been lucky that they've all happened at home (and sometimes while sitting on the couch or in her bed), but I sometimes lay awake at night just worrying about what could happen next. And my worrying is only compounded by the fact that I simply don't know a lot about the disorder.
I just want to here some outside experience and perspectives. She is the first epileptic I've known, so I don't really have anyone to talk to about it. Sometimes I'll find myself researching it and worrying (which led me to this forum), and I find comfort when I hear about people living long and relatively normal lives with the disorder. But due to the varying degrees of epilepsy, I don't really have a reference point to gauge these stories.
So what do you guys think? Any stories or reassurance to help comfort me? I just want to be able to sleep a comfortable 8 hours for once, haha.
Oh, and a side note. I get migraines (used to get serious ones about 4 times a week for a year) so I see a neurologist. And one thing we learned about each other within the first week of dating, we see the same neurologist. So I was thinking of asking her if I could tag along to an appointment, or maybe ask our neurologist about the disorder when I see him next (although I'm sure he won't disclose information about the patient to me).
Some basic info to get out of the way:
She is 22 (I'm 23), and she has been diagnosed with it since she was 18. So this isn't something completely new to her, and she's said the seizures were more frequent in the past, but they've been more manageable for the past couple years. But she did say that in the past couple months they have been more frequent--before the more recent seizures she hadn't experienced one in a while (maybe a year? I'll have to ask). One of her triggers is apparently her allergy to gluten, so she eats a gluten-free diet. She takes a daily preventative medication, Lamictal XR.
Some questions:
How severe does her epilepsy sound? I have a hard time sorting through information, I've read cases where the person just goes into a blank stare every now and then, to people who die in there sleep after frequent severe seizures. Does hers sound like a relatively normal case?
How clearly defined are most epileptics triggers? Despite her avoiding gluten and taking daily medication, does it sound like her treatment might not be effective? I'm not entirely sure how severe her disorder was before she took the medication or discovered her allergy. So I think this is something I can ask her.
Thanks, and like I said I just want some outside perspective to help ease my mind. Because worrying while not knowing exactly what you should be worrying about is a pretty crappy feeling.
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