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Old 03-03-2014, 10:40 AM
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Would you date someone who is epileptic


So quick question. Would you date someone who is epileptic if you yourself also had epilepsy?

I have thought about this for a long time and I think there are pros and cons to both arguments of yes and no. But I still haven't come to a clear answer.

I'd like to hear your thoughts and stories below.

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Old 03-03-2014, 11:07 AM
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Can't think of any reasons why not to be with someone if we were in love

I can think of lots of definite pros, and just a few possible cons - and those cons aren't even specific to E..

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I think for me personally the added stress of worrying about when my partner was going to have a seizure would be too much on top of worrying about when I was gonna have my next seizure.

On the other hand having someone who really understands the situation and has been on that road could create a kind of intimacy that would be hard to get with anyone else.
When I was a teenager i used to dream that my perfect partner would also have E and it would create a kind of perfect unity. That was also when I was only having nocturnal seizures and didn't have to live the reality of E really like I do now during the waking hours.
Like my recent ex. He was really great and supportive but it was just hard for him to understand why I needed to sleep alone so I could get a full 8 hours so I wouldn't have a seizure next day. Even though he was really supportive he just could never really understand. Just like I can't really understand what it's like to be brought up with divorced parents. I can still be supportive but at the end of the day I won't ever really "know" Does that make sense?
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Old 03-03-2014, 11:55 AM
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Of course it does, and that 'shared intimacy' is waaay up there in the pros - in fact I'd *love* to be with someone with E...

.. any offers?

oh, and you could maybe borrow some meds when you couldn't be arsed to get to the pharmacy
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Old 03-03-2014, 12:19 PM
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I would, except that I don't think my wife would be too happy about it!

(Seriously, though, if I were single I don't think epilepsy would be a deal-breaker.)
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Old 03-03-2014, 12:21 PM
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I did date someone who also had epilepsy he was controlled but even if he hadn't been it wouldn't have mattered to me.
I dated a person for what they were like inside so they had seizures big deal.

I knew what to do if someone had a seizure, and I was accepted by dates when I told them I had epilepsy.I'm more than just epilepsy I'm an individual person and so is someone else who has epilepsy.

I married the best person in the world who had know problem with my epilepsy after dating him for 3 years and he's been there for me.
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Old 03-03-2014, 01:33 PM
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I dated and married my late wife and the connection we had was great.
I understood her issues and it really never bothered me.
so to me love trumps everything else.
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Absolutely--I wouldn't want anyone to consider my condition to be a critical factor in my value to them in their life, and I certainly wouldn't put that same filter on anyone else.
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I am really high right now but trust me I needed it. =)
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i have had a few seizures today, and my head hurts to, so i understand.
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I think I might, I think only they would know how it feels to be this tired, & understand the headaches,


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tbh i really don't know. not b/c i have an issue with 'people who have e' obviously if i'm one of them, but i guess it would depend on the seizure situation re: severity and life they lead. i'm being really honest here, i dunno that i could function properly with someone who's situation was a constant negative, which alot of is dependant on their attitude towards having a disease.

i am an extremely high-functioning person when it comes to work, finances, fighting the fight, always doing my best, and my determination with anything is through the roof. i could not be with someone that wasn't similar. if they were wishy-washy about never missing their meds, if they used it as a reason to get out of stuff, if they weren't always fighting the fight and staying pro-active (we all know that some people don't), then i'd have no interest. with epilepsy making it a priority to look after yourself is key, so if they didn't, i couldn't.
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Yes I would. Love is a decision! My wife is an epileptic. Something she can't control much and didn't choose. I have faults and defects based on my choices as does she those get a lot more concern Choosing to be a high-maintenance person is much more serious to consider than physical issues beyond your control. Having Epilepsy is a non issue for us!

35 years ago it was even more a non issue






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My husband married me with full knowledge of my epilepsy. I only had abscence seizures when we got married. That was 50 years ago. MY seizures got worse and now I have Diabetes and Alzheimer's Disease.

We are still in love and he has never regretted marrying me. I fell in love for who he was and he fell in love for you I am. We both fell in love for good reasons. I have never regretted marrying him. He is a DH ( Darling Husband.)

If you get married for the right reasons, it does not matter what health problems each of you have.
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