:hello:
And one of the hardest things after being with someone
for so long is the fact that we fail to realize that it's not
all "depression", but rather to the fact ---> it was the
"dependency". If you really sat down and think about it,
you will find the truth in that, the dependency for one
and another; and when they have gone their separate
ways - a void is there, an emptiness; that missing "gap",
and then we "feel depressed" but yet unable to comprehend
nor grasp or even pinpointing what it is. But once someone
has revealed to us that it is the dependency, it suddenly
becomes a "lightbulb" over our heads.
But how does one fill that void? That dependency that we
had for so long, especially having been through it where the
"independence" of the youth was long gone?
One must come to realization that the "Past is in the past,
and it is gone; it is history. One cannot change it. All that
one can do now is what and where you are at this present
state and what are you going to do about now and about
your future? Nothing can be accomplished by looking back-
wards in the past when you are trying to walk forward."
There is no further truth than that.
So the whole perspective is, changing of your own focus,
which you are now in charge of yourself. You are responsible
for yourself, you are responsible for everything that goes
around you and your future. No one else can make that
decision but you. You can take charge! You do not have
to be bogged down by the past; letting go does hurt but
for a moment. It is easier said than done, it is okay to cry
but do not wallow in it. Give yourself a day of mourning and
then leave it at that, move forward and move on. You have
the world before you and to conquer!
Who knows, one day that time will come, when someone will
sweep you off your feet, and will be beyond your dreams; and
the person of the past grows dimmer in comparison with the
one you had in the light of the individual you were associated
with. Especially if you are young or young in heart.
Moreover, keeping yourself active and your mind busy, and
get moving will always give you new life and perspective. Become
associated with local recreation centers if there is one nearby
or at the library or at some halls (Religious, Clubs, etc) where
they have gatherings of all sorts - from collectors to art to
whatever floats your boat. Do the things that you wanted to
do but never did.
If it is possible, try to enroll at an Evening Adult Vocational
Tech School where they have classes 1 or 2 nights a week for
several hours and learn something new and meet new people
and before you know it, you'll have new friends and a whole
new life ahead of you!
There's so many possibilities that lies ahead of you that I
could keep on typing and typing and typing, for the list is
completely endless!
You can make it and You can do it!
:tup:
