Hello all, I am new to the forum. I have been married 22 years to an amazing woman who lived with epilepsy from birth until adulthood. She had a temporal lobectomy in our first year of marriage and has been seizure free since. Over the years I have seen her personality change subtly. Almost 2 years ago, her Mom passed away unexpectedly and now she is withdrawing completely from friends, family. I suspect that there is much more going on than just depression over the loss of her Mom. I want her to seek help from a neuropsychologist or a psychiatrist but she says she doesn't need any help from anybody and that it's pretty much all my fault, I put my career ahead of the family, etc. I really don't know how to negotiate with her to get her to go see someone. We received no counseling or post-op information about behavior changes that might occur. Based on what I've seen and read about TBI (I'm in the Army) and researched about temporal lobectomies, there is a high rate of depression, introversion, antisocial disorder, anger management, etc. that can occur years afterward.