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I feel like a fool right now and so stressed out...I know no one wants to hear relationship troubles but I can't sleep! I fell asleep and when I woke up my boyfriend was gone. I know he didn't sleep much the past few days and he was off work last night so I'm stressed out. I just want to know he's ok but he's not picking up the phone. He's all I have. I'm so worried. He doesn't have friends he hangs out with at night and he doesn't drink.....I really hope I am overreacting but I can't think of a positive explanation. .
 
It is a normal thing to worry about. Just try not to let yourself get stressed to the point where you get sick. I would think about the best case scenario and stick with that. It might sound silly, but if you trick your mind into just saying, "everything is ok, it will be figured out tomorrow" that will at least help you get to sleep. Maybe you will call and realize everything is A ok. As I was told so many times, you cannot control the actions of other but you can control how you react. So I would stay calm for now. Try to get some good sleep and not otherthink. You always want to be composed in situation, even if it turn out bad. But remember, you gotta look at this in a positive way!
 
I am starting to wonder if I did something wrong because this never happens. :-( he is crazy about me...
 
Plus if it makes you feel any better, I have had countless time in my relationship where I would be at a friends house. I would totally forget to call my fiance. (before we were engaged) and I would fall asleep on accident. She would be very upset, which is understandable. She knew my friends and the crowd of peope were all good. So it would always blow over. Though I grew up and stopped doing stupid stuff that caused fights that could have been easily avoided.
 
Well it sounds like you have a relationship that is on a serious level. If you really love him a lot and you said he feels the same way. I feel it is very safe to say that this could be a fluke and something popped up. I would sleep on it and find out tomorrow. Best of luck, I know the feeling. Thankfully I passed that bridge and I am sure you will as well.
 
I know this sounds mean but he doesn't really have friends, he works a lot so we are best friends. I wouldn't care if that was the case but he could have let me know. stress for me equals seizures and he knows this. I guess I will pop a xanax and an ambien and try to pass out. Thank you, I'm sure you're right.
 
Yes...turns out he found my pot stash while I was sleeping. I only use it on occasion for medical purposes (no, lol). He just hates it a lot. I have cut Way back on smoking already, I guess it's not enough. I had to promise muffins to get him home this morning. He was at a 24 hr gaming place.
 
Magic muffins? :p LOL.

A good relationship relys on trust. As well as compromise. Hopefully you two can figure something out before it ruins your relationship. **hugs**
 
I just can't promise him that I will never smoke again. It's so helpful for me during panic attacks and when I know a seizure is coming I can stop it...if I have a seizure it helps me feel so much better. It doesn't seem fair that I have to stop something that helps so much. Idk if this will work. He knew that I did this when he met me and didn't seem to mind then.
 
Compromise is key, though I know many people in person who use it for medicinal reasons only. It seems to help them a lot. He does need to understand that the stress thing can cause you to have seizures. So just tell him that if he gets upset, not to run away. I'm sure it would have put a lot less pressure on your relationship. Communication is so important. Emphasis that, you really can't go wrong.
 
You probably already have this sorted out, but I think you shouldn't give up something that is so helpful. I don't smoke, but as an RN, I believe in its ability to help in certain situations.

On the other hand, if he knew you smoked when you met and freaked out when he found your "stash"... well there is some sort of disconnect. I can only assume he thought you quit or he didn't realize you smoked as much as you do or he felt you were hiding something???? Whatever it is, you should be honest with him about this right away. Clear up any misconceptions and offer him a chance to voice his concerns. Obvious concern is its illegal. Hopefully you have that part covered if its legal for medical purposes in your state... you have a license for it... go to approved dealers and such. If he loves you, he should feel fine with it if its all legit. Quite frankly, I've never heard anyone say pot made them feel as bad as E drugs make them feel. E drugs f you up way worse than pot in my humble opinion... not based off any scholarly studies lol. :) Good luck with this.
 
Wow I completely forgot I posted this thread, I just posted a similar one today...oops...as I tell my friends, excuse my epilepsy lol. Wow
 
Maiden, today at the library I had to look through a book for 5 mins before realizing I had already read it. D'oh.
 
It's not your fault, it's the authors. The book should have been more memorable. :)
 
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