Complex partial during date!

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Hi everyone,

O.k. I went on a date and on the first date with this girl I have a complex partial seizure :( I scared her because I have seen what complex partials look like and she hadn't seen one before and not only that, after the seizure it takes time to come back to reality so I was talking about random stuff that I can't remember. I'm lucky my brother got in contact with her later during the day and explained what happened. Anyway had an experience where they have a seizure on their first date?
How do you tell someone you have epilepsy? I'm just worried people are going to feel uncomfortable being around you.
The seizures should improve by me being more responsible... E.g Taking my medication, enough rest and staying hydrated....

Thanks
 
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morning, and welcome!
my first thought is how did she react? freak out, or is she being understanding and want to see you again?
 
she was scared.... She didn't know what to do. I feel like a complete idiot because after I would have been talking rubbish because it takes time to come back to reality. She is a very nice girl and got in contact and asked what I was doing the rest of the night and told me not to worry after I said sorry for what happened..... Haven't heard back from her I think I just changed the way she sees me now
 
first, don't be embarrassed, there's nothing we can do about where we're at. i understand it's no fun to have one in front of someone, but feeling like an idiot means you're way too hard on yourself friend. life's too short, as we all know.
second, like we've talked about alot on here recently (read 'first date, medic alert bracelet'...)... if anyone is worth being with, even for one date, they'll be okay with it. they may be a bit scared or confused, but they're not worth spending any more time with if they book. pretty black and white for us and that's just the way it is. (((hugs)))
 
Hey :)

Thanks for the kind words. By idiot, i just meant I should have made it aware before it happened... Sorry if I came of offensive to you or anyone. I'll just do the best I can with meds etc and move forward. Thanks again :)
 
Hi there. I just went on my first date since my divorce in 2006 last night and had been thinking, "what if" myself. I had my medic alert bracelet on (I'm that 'first date, medic alert bracelet' person :)) but we didn't talk about it and so far I haven't heard back from him (I know, it's only the next morning). He was nice, who knows what will happen, but it's been on my mind. The whole epilepsy / complex partial seizure diagnosis is brand new to ME and I have a hard time with it. A date? I just don't know when and how to bring it up. I guess maybe the sooner the better? I'm so sorry it happened on your first date. If she can't deal with it though, she's not for you, you know? My ex husband couldn't deal and we'd been married 12 years - well I guess 10 before all heck broke loose, but still.

I also learned the hard way not to forget to take meds. Vacation or not, don't forget the meds!! Warm welcome and gentle hugs.
 
Hey :)

Well to be honest the date went good. She was just scared/confused because it was new. We spoke the same night after the seizure occured and she was really kind and told me dont worry about it and she just wanted to knw hw she could help at the time.. ... I guess I havn't heard from her because she is waiting for me to msg her lol. She is the one that usually msgs me. After the seizure happened the following day she msged me and said why wasnt I at her friends function.... When i first started with complex partials I was alwys worried about what others would think. Tonight just reminded me to do the best I can and accept and be happy. Easy said then done of course bt so much more happy
 
Hi there :) I have a feeling you are being too hard on yourself and she is a-ok....just confused. I bet you are right, she is waiting for you to start the conversation. Or maybe she just wants to do as she suggested and know how she can help during a seizure...and move on with the friendship/more.
It's hard, I know. I'm single, too and dating is difficult with this condition. Good for you for learning from the experience! :) I hope things work out with the two of you!
 
I agree, don't be shy about checking back in with her. The more open and matter-of-fact you can be with her about what happened, the more comfortable she will feel.
 
Hope my story might be a bit of help in the virtues of being open and honest with the people in your life :)

Had an episode on my first date with my boyfriend 5 years ago...felt too embarrassed to get in contact again. We'd been great friends up until that point...but after beating myself up about things too much I let my brain demons get the better of me & ran away

Ran into him again in December & chatted about it, he was really understanding & upset that I never called him back!...we finally had our second date in January this year (:

I've never met anyone as supportive, I now know that if I'd had the confidence to speak to him honestly back then we could've saved ourselves years of silliness...
Don't miss out on 5 years of potential dates & understanding company like I did
 
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