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I've seen around 5 different neurologists throughout my life and in one word I can describe them all, arrogant. It seems neurologists have this God complex about them and it seems to be limited to them. All 5 were the same, they ask you a question and they know what your answer should be and if it's different, they correct you or tell you that oyu are misunderstand what is going on in your body.

Have I just been extremely unlucky to go 5 out of 5 with these kinds of neurologists? And not just from the same area either, Kentucky, Germany, New Mexico, and Tennessee(2), all were the same.
 
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Unlucky good question, you just summed up what just about all neurologists are like but I must say it is possible to come across a nice one (if you do tell me). Only there answer is the correct one and it does not matter what you tell them. There is one thing though, this God complex, my epilepsy nurse has one.
 
My neuro is great. He listens to my questions and asks more questions about what's going on with me so he can give a better answer.

I used to see the nurse practitioner who I know thinks she has a God complex. I would tell her things and she didn't want to listen to what I had to say because she already knew what was wrong with me. We got into a fight once because I was having more seizures than usual and she said that it was because I wasn't taking my meds. My mom and husband were both in the office with me and all of us told her that I always take my meds and take them on time so there must be something else going on that is causing these extra seizures. The nurse practitioner just kept telling us that it was because I wasn't taking my meds and that was why, peroid!

After that visit I told my neruo's receptionist that if I wasn't going to see the actual neuro for my visits then I was going to find another neuro to go to. Haven't seen the nurse practitioner since.
 
I live in a small town & there are only 2 neurologists in my town who work in the same clinic. I've been seeing my neurologist here since for 10 years. He is really nice, he will always listen to what me or my Mum have to tell him. The only time I didn't agree with my local neuro which was a couple of years ago I went to see him to get some forms filled out plus I was having more partial seizures even though I was on 3 meds (Tegretol, Keppra & Neurontin). I had been on the Neurontin for 8 months at that stage, it wasn't helping control the seizures & I had crappy side effects from it but my neurologist decided to increase the Neurontin which just made the side effects worse.
I've never seen the other neurologist in my town but I have people who do see him say he is very abrupt.

I had brain surgery last year which I had in the city so go to an epilepsy clinic at the hospital I had my surgery for regular checkups. The neurologist I see at the epilepsy clinic is also great. he is really down to earth, has a great sense of humour & listens to what me or my Mum tell him.

I met a few different neurologists, epitiologists at the hospital where I had my surgery & they were all great. The only one specialist I didn't like was one of the assistant surgeons who helped with my surgery. I found him really arrogant & full of himself. Yet the head neurosurgeon was really nice lol.
 
I have been treated by two FP and 6 diff. Neurog. The one I'm currently seeing is great, and she is the closest to me than any of the others A big Plus.

when I went in for my OB appt last Oct. she said who was my Neur.
I told her, she wrote the name and number of this Neur. and slide it across the desk to me. She said I needed to change Neur.
I so thankful that she was aware and gave me that inform.
 
I have to travel to see a neuro, the first one I saw was in Sydney. He was actually okay, but it the hospital is at Kings Cross (fellow Aussies might understand) my partner and I had a run in outside the hospital with a addict with a crack pipe and decided we didn't want to go back.
The second neuro in Bowral was also not bad, but she was obsessed with pregnancy. She actually had my partner and I thinking. We had blood tests etc sent to her and when we sat down she asked what medication I was on, when I told her Lamictal the first thing out of her mouth was "oh yes, that's one of the better ones for pregnancy" we just looked at each other and thought, does she know something that we don't? Every second sentence she said was "when you get pregnant" "when you're pregnant". It was really annoying, but I've been lucky. Both my docs were at least friendly, helpful and comforting, which is something a lot of people are not getting.
 
CrunchyFrog said:
the hospital is at Kings Cross (fellow Aussies might understand) my partner and I had a run in outside the hospital with a addict with a crack pipe and decided we didn't want to go back.
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I've only been to Sydney a few times so don't know it that well.
Correct me if I'm wrong but isn't Kings Cross the bad part of Sydney?
 
CQ:) said:
I've only been to Sydney a few times so don't know it that well.
Correct me if I'm wrong but isn't Kings Cross the bad part of Sydney?
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Yup, it's not great, got a lot of problems.
 
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The one I am going to now is nice. I'm now pissed I have to move to try and find work. The one I had before I moved was a butt
 
Yeah, arrogant is a good way to describe mine. He treats me as though I am a little child. Then again, he started treating me when I was 13. I deal with it because he knows my condition best and has been dealing with me for over a decade now.

Thankfully, my condition is largely controlled and I don't need to see him unless something urgent changes in my situation.
 
My 7 year old daughter's Neurologist is way to calm for me. He has no expressions and nothing seems to be of any emergency. He is very laid back and really doesn't have the best bedside manner. He is gentle with her which I like, but it is like pulling teeth to get him to prescribe her anything or move him along. I have to have weeks and weeks of proof before he will really change any meds she is currently on.
 
Kashani,
sometimes neuros do that with the parents of children, because they know that you panic. and every little thing that isnt an obvious seizure, may be blown out of proportion. So rather than change her meds for something that you might think is a partial seizure, but really isnt, he just waits until its happened long enough that it warrants a change. That and it usually takes 3 months for someone to get used to a dosage change.

My doctors are all arrogant. whether it be my eye specialist, my GP, my neuros, my dentist etc. The only doc that has never been arrogant was my OB/GYN I saw when my ovary cysts were really bad. she just understood life as a woman and how crappy things were in that area.

I work with regular optomotrists (not opthamologists, just the guys that give you an rx for glasses and contacts) and several of them are constantly late, making silly excuses and once, he was 2 hours late and joked that he would buy the angry customer a coffee. They call in the morning and ask when their first appointment is. I say 10am. The doc doesnt show up until 11pm or noon. So I got in the habit of saying the first appointment was an hour before it was actually booked so that they could be on time.
 
My neurologist is not too arrogant, but he is so busy that he doesn't give you much time in the office. Last time I went after a new type of seizure, and he said the name of what he thought it was, and that was it. He said to get an MRI, and left.

Oh, and it's worth mentioning that there's nice doctors out there, believe it or not. My GP is the coolest, nicest guy ever. Every time I go in there we get off on a tangent talking about the newest biology trends and end up talking for half an hour lol.
 
I have had 5 neurologists in 5 years. It may be my attitude towards the appointments and I always dread them!! I argue with them same tests even been put back on same medication I have tried before. I live alone and can't describe my seizures too well and go on hear say of what others tell me. They seem to have some textbook idea of a seizure. But clearly don't understand the difficulties that come with living with the condition. Have even been told by latest neurologist not to get pregnant ln case they want to admit me to hospital for telemetry!! Even though my medication risks to unborn child are very small. Oh well we will never see eye to eye I understand that now
 
I have back problems and it took me years of many drs and specialists, CAT scans (can't have an MRI) and all other different sorts of tests to just be told that I don't have any problems. Well if I didn't have any problems then why couldn't I move around half the time because my back hurt so bad? They'd just tell me to do stretches and send me home with pain meds.

Finally a dr figured out with an x-ray on my first visit with him that I have a herniated disc. Getting some treatment for it now.
 
I often wonder how doctors miss things like that. Do they generalize treatment based on what is most common, and just pass over less common things? Both my mother and I took Depakote for quite some time for different things, and our doctor (we had the same GP) didn't associate some really bad memory problems to it. Once I self diagnosed both of us, he thought it was a great idea to get off the meds T_T
 
The neurosurgeon I had 11 years ago was great. Very easy to talk to, and answered questions well. My neurologist now definitely has the God complex. I'd brought a seizure diary with me, dismissed the idea of me pulling it out of my purse to show him. My husband had also videotaped one of my worse ones, also didn't care to see it (My GP, and the neuro that referred me to this one found the video to be incredibly useful). I've only seen him once so far, and speak often to his nurse... we'll see how it goes next time.
 
my neuologist is really nice. she always asks how i have been and is very understanding. but best of all, she listens to me and makes sure i am happy with the medication i am on and has told me i can call her at any time if i want to talk to her about anything, even if it isn't about epliepsy
 
2ndchances said:
The neurosurgeon I had 11 years ago was great. Very easy to talk to, and answered questions well. My neurologist now definitely has the God complex. I'd brought a seizure diary with me, dismissed the idea of me pulling it out of my purse to show him. My husband had also videotaped one of my worse ones, also didn't care to see it (My GP, and the neuro that referred me to this one found the video to be incredibly useful). I've only seen him once so far, and speak often to his nurse... we'll see how it goes next time.
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I keep a seizure diary and type out all the seizures that I've had between visits, what I did during them and how long they lasted. I've also got on it all the meds that I'm taking (epilepsy and others) and any other dr visits that I've gone to and what for. I just give it to the neuro at the start of the visit and he reads over it. He's never said that it's too much info and I see that he's got them all in the folder that he has for me.

I print out a copy for me too and put it in a folder that I have. It's easier to answer questions that he asks and he's asked questions about things that I've got on it too.

My husband videoed me once too but I don't think we ever showed that to him.
 
My neurologist def thinks he is a God! He is thorough, I will give him that, but he is an arrogant, condescending thing. He takes your symptoms. You go back and see him, asks you about your symptoms, if they have changed, you are accused of making things up. GGGRRRRRRR
 
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