I guess I spoke too soon about having an awesome bf...

[mommymela]

My boyfriend is driving me Effing nuts!!! When we were first together he was so sweet and helpful. He knew I had epilepsy and he knew I smoked marijuana on occasion and in private to deal with side effects. He even brought me some once. Fast forward two months and he demands that I stop and doesn't believe that it helps me. I didn't want to agree but because I really liked him I decided to stop to make him happy. That was about a month ago maybe. Last night I was going through old pill bottles and found a tiny little bag. Literally only enough for for one small hit. I I went outside and smoked it because I had a seizure yesterday that Fast have me a bad headache. My headache was then gone, but I became feeling guilty so I admitted it to my boyfriend. He got so angry that he sped off in his car and was gone all night. I just wanted to be honest. He came home but is still upset about it and won't talk about it. I have apologized countless times. Am I wrong to think he is overreacting?

 

[mommymela]

Sorry for the typos, I hate posting from my phone!

 

[CathyAnn31]

I'm sorry he's being a butthead.

Don't really know what to tell you.

When I 1st met Rob he was totally against it. Then when he realized my good friend and her hubby smoked too. He saw that they were productive members of society.

He's more liberal these days, on lots of things....he's even smoked with me a few times.

Progress..

 

[mommymela]

Thanks Kathy. I've pretty much decided to break up with him in the next week. He just seems too controlling and acts like nothing is his fault. Yep, I'd rather be single!

 

[mommymela]

Omg I'm an idiot something similar happened a few days ago and I forgot. I wonder if he put the weed in there. probably not. I hate my screwed up memory.

 

[MuayThaiFighter]

Trust me the thought of smoking has crossed my mind, hoping it would alleviate. I just really can't bring myself too. Some people just hate the stuff. Maybe he is one of the guys. If it helps you then honestly I see NO harm in doing it. If he had seizures, I bet he would understand, in fact he would probably be smoking with you right now! Just take it easy and avoid stress, that seems to be the number 1 shark for all us on here.

 

[julie wishes]

I hate to say it, but when you tell someone something then do the opposite it undermines your relationship. It may not be about the pot at all, but if it is and the pot is something that you'd like to do, then you really aren't a good match. But don't give up on love. Just find the right guy who will love you for you. Accepting all of you. Not just the parts he likes. I know how hard it is to find love. Hang in there.

 

[Maidenminx]

For him to accept your occasional smoking to start with and then get all pissy about it is ridiculous. You either accept someone or you don't. It's that simple.

 

[Chaz1]

One short life we are granted and it is sure is not to be lived nor dicated 'under' another human beings idea of how it should be. He getting mighty bossy in a short time, gosh what is ahead at this rate....??

The relaxing properties in MJ are not to undermined, sure it’s not suitable for all and not accepted by all and thats OK....but it sure relaxes my Son. I see him go from hyper bunny to chillaxed bunny after a smoke; it slows it all down inside his head, thank God.

 

[no.guru]

Many are fine with it but don't want the possibility of legal issues for themselves or the person they're with.

I have to echo julie wishes, though: promising to stop, then reversing it and blaming him for not changing is childish behavior. Mean what you say, or shut up.

 

[mommymela]

I changed a lot for him and really slowed way down on smoking.Yes, I did smoke probably 3 times or so after I stopped, but I admitted it and explained that it was hard for me but I was still trying. It just bothers me that his opinion changed so quickly. How can he bring it to me and even smoke a couple times with me them change his mind? It's not fair. I feel like he doesn't appreciate how much I have changed for him already. I chat.he's the way I Xoom be,side he's so damn picky, I don't drink beer at all anymore, I stopped hanging out with friends he didn't like, I cool and clean for him every day...a little appreciation for what I have done would be nice instead of him focusing completely on the couple times I did smoke. It's just not worth it. I guess what I'm saying is is that weed is not the only issue here. I'm sure he will be a great match for someone else, just not me.

 

[mommymela]

Holy auto correct...

 

[no.guru]

Sounds like he's trying to change for you, too, and then reversing.

 

[mommymela]

I don't care that he doesn't smoke though. I would never try to make him do it either.

 

[Cint]

Maybe he wants you to be "clean" now by not smoking and drinking to make sure your seizures stay under control. That is probably what he doesn't want to deal with on a regular basis.

 

[mommymela]

By the way, it's kind of funny to see someone say I'm childish and then tell me to shut up. Lol!

 

[no.guru]

I wasn't trying to be harsh. It's a common saying online. In fact, I posted an edited version.

Edit: Also, I didn't call anyone childish. The behavior is childish regardless of who does it.

 

[mommymela]

Oh I was not at all a heavy drinker, my doctor told me it was ok to have one beer or one glass of wine. That's interesting though, I wonder if he had a drinking problem in the past. I think he has the right to decide what he does or does not want to be around, I just wish he had been up front about it in the beginning. Thanks for the replies everyone!

 

[Soniag]

he might of had a problem in the past, but he still has no right to react to you the way he has done. he should just talk to you about it instead of running away from the problems

 

[mommymela]

I just tried to talk to him about it, but he doesn't want to. He slammed my door and drove off. I tried. :-(