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this may sound harsh, but i say get rid of him if he is acting like this towards you, you don't want to be living your life worrying about how he will react to everything you do
 
That's the plan Sonia. I know I deserve to be treated better and I can't handle the stress.
 
Sorry your going through this,
sometimes in life, its just easier going it alone with one less stress with the things we cant change, you can make all the changes in the world for another person but if they wont talk through anything with you about why they are or are not against anything then its harder and then causes you more stress and us with seizures a higher chance of having them= not fun days.
mommymela hope you can get things worked out good thoughts being sent out to you still, do what you need to for you to keep you seizures under control and be seizure free.
and agree with others that he should not have acted like that to you as well.
mike
 
A great love is also a great match... he's not that. And read what you wrote up there... you changed so much for him :( that made me sad. Just be you sweety. Its honest and the right man will love everything about you and match up well with you. Not saying he would have to smoke too... just saying he would understand and let you be you. Don't change... you are worthwhile just the way you are. :). Good luck.
 
Yep, you're right. I have to end this. It is sad, but mostly just for him. If only he had been more understanding. It's just not meant to be and I accept that.

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Mel its clinton we talked about this yesterday if he cant handle what helps you and wants you to change everything thats wrong and were here to help not criticize thats what cwe was created for he cant change you or u wouldnt be you.
 
He knew who you were when you got together. I think he's just using it as a convenient excuse to throw a wobbly and end the relationship. His loss not yours.
 
Wow! I'm so sorry that that happened to you. If I were you, I'd a sit down and explain to him again that it helps you once he's willing to listen. He's acting like a little kid. Sure, you might have smoked cannabis even though you said you wouldn't, but he KNOWS you used to use it for helping with your symptoms. It would be one thing if you had some kind of drug problem, but this is medicinal and he's being immature.
 
kick him to the curb! My husband does stuff I don't like, but I would never ask him to change that, and he had better not ask me to change myself! We have been married for 31 years and a great relationship is being able to love the person, not the habits. Even if you smoked everyday, he knew it before hand. I personally think it should be legal. I have never tried it, but it is just stupid that something that can help so many is against the law.
 
you were honest from the start he knew every thing and he was ok with it for a time and then he throws a fit about it, come on someone shoot me,you deserve SO MUCH BETTER then him. I think I agree with riffraffmama he just wants to end the relationship so end it.sorry for putting it bluntly.
 
he will get over it but he just really cares about you and if I were in your position I would rather him be mad at me then say oh whatever bc
he cares and if he didn't that would kinda suck.. but weed will cause a seizure when ur coming down from the high just like alc. when ur high it prevents it but it's just not worth it. but he will soon get over it, don't worry
 
I give you props for telling the truth. I think maybe he is over reacting but don't let it get to you just be yourself, do your best, and act the same aroun him, he will come around.
 
Honestly, I think he's being an asshole to end the relationship. That's all I can think off if he suddenly started having problems with you smoking. Throw him out of your life and do what helps you to control your seizures/headaches. I know after a tonic-clonic the headache takes forever to go away and ibuprofen or tylenol doesn't help.
 
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It's one thing if he's wanting you to change all these things about yourself cause he doesn't like certain things about you, cause then he's not accepting you for who you are and if he's not being appreciative of you or things you do for him, then that's wrong.

However if he's just mad cause you said you'd quit and then smoke again, he's mad cause you went back on your word & may wanted you to quit for your own health. I have smoked pot in the past & even drank but I realized it was bad for my health and I haven't done pot in over 30 years and haven't drank anything in over 8 years, maybe more. For one, I take meds that would put me more at risk for health problems if I mix them with alcohol & smoking pot was polluting my lungs. They may not have the same ingredients as cigarettes but still not good for you. I no longer do it and no longer believe in doing it.

If someone can't accept you for who you are as a person then you don't need that person. And if he isn't appreciative of you or things you do for him, then you don't need that. His suddenly having a problem with your smoking is odd but he probably just changed his mind and perhaps worries about your health. If he got mad cause you didn't want to smoke, then he isn't caring about your health.

When someone tries to change everything about you, then he's not wanting you for you & same if it were you doing it. To be fair, he has the right to change his mind but so do you. However it's different when you promise to do something and then do the opposite. If he's doing it to just be a jerk, then that's another thing and you don't need that.
 
he do on face of seem an arse, but you asking advice and opiinion then you know the answer.....smoking pot no help me made iit worse
 
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