I SO Need to let this out!

[momof3boys]

Im so sick of our neighbors! I so wish they would get their crap and move out! We've been dealing with these stupid neighbors since June 24th! They have lived next door for almost three years, and since their son assulted our son on June 24th, Ive had enough of them!

Their parenting skills SUCK! I feel so sorry for their kids. (ages 12 and 7 years) Their 7 year old, at the time he was 6, he just turned 7 a few days ago, he is the one who assulted our son. What do the parents do... NOTHING. No Apology. Just sticking up for their kids and defending themselves. What did this boy do? This kid took a rock the size of my hand threw it at our the side of our sons head! How in the world can these parents defend their son for doing something they dont see he did anything wrong about!

Then since this has taken place, Ive told the mother to keep her kids on their property, and we will keep our kids on our property. Since then, we have installed security cameras. God only knows what these people will do. We've caught them saying rude and harrassing things about us. last week the mother went all out and freaked out on her porch, telling me I was bipolar, a mean person and that my kids do things, that only her kids do... but of course she is going to reverse things and think her kids are little angels and dont do anything wrong!

Then the past two days, her 12 year old son has told our two youngest kids how they feel about me. calling me numberous names... cussing, and saying terriable things. I had enough. I called the officer who handled our case and he said they are harrassing us. He was going to contact them to tell them to stop. If they continue, we have to call the non emergency number and report them.

To top it off, the landlord of the house these people are renting, showed up at their porch tonight. the house is in such bad conditions, that I wouldnt even allow an animal to live in there, yet alone a family of 6! The two parents, mother in law, cousin and two kids live there. Plus a guy who they have no relation to, that gives them $100 a month to live in the unfinished basement, because the family cant afford the rent themselves. But to see the landlords show up and say they were not going to fix the repairs, totally made me mad. We have to live next door to a bad family and a house that I feel could easily be bull dozed! I so wish I could get out of this neighborhood!

These people are insane!

 

[Maidenminx]

Jesus! What a crappy situation, and with all the other stuff on your plate, this is the last thing you need.

I hope the harassment warning sinks in to their horrible attitudes. My son has autism (I know I keep mentioning it, I just haven't got to doing a signature.) and he often reacts inappropriately and every time I get my son to apologise, then I apologise for his behaviour, then I sit him down and once again explain how to react appropriately. I hate lazy parents.

 

[MuayThaiFighter]

I would say you really need to talk to the children's parents. Violence is not ok and throwing a rock at anyones heads could be fatal. Never acceptable, and for these people to not only advocate this violence but not correct it is very disturbing. I doubt talking to the children's parents will solve anything. My best advice is to keep your children away from the other children causing the problems. These incidents can get very nasty so I would try to maintain minimal contact with the neighbors. Let the law take care of this craziness and try not to let the stress get to you. Stress definetly can induce seizures really fast so I hope everything is fixed soon. God bless.

 

[huskymom]

Crazy neighbors are the worst! Can you put up a privacy fence? Then your kids can be outside and the kids next door won't be able to have contact with them. I don't think that talking with the neighbors anymore is going to do any good. They sound like a lost cause. You will just have to grow a thick skin until they or you move. Can you report the landlord to the city? Maybe they are unaware of the situation next door. A lot of city's have strict laws on how many people can live in a house, and on the status of the house, like codes. I will be keeping my fingers crossed that you are able to find a way to deal with all of this. (((HUGS)))

 

[momof3boys]

We have a privacy fence in the back. But with our kids wanting to ride their bikes, they like to ride them in the front, and on the sidewalk areas. So we've been spending sometime in the front. Thats where things get nasty. They can be on their property and say thing to our kids who are on the sidewalk. We did write a letter to the landlords, and they showed up at the home last night. But, nothing is going to be done. They all kept laughing together, and I heard the landlord tell the family that things were already like this prior to them moving in. All these landlords want is just the money they can collect every month, and not repairing the home. This house is in such horriable conditions. I wouldnt dare let a animal in the home, yet alone a family. I did contact a program through email that can possibly do something about the landlord not repairing things. I have yet to hear back. After the landlords left, the mother just glared at me. Anytime I walked outside, she just stared. I dont care though. Let her stare at me all she wants. We did have to contact the police yesterday in regards to her sons and her behavior. Im hoping the officer did make contact with her, and tell her and her family to stop harrassing us. If it happens again, we just call up the police and they will send an officer out. Im trying hard not to let this stress me out, but I so wish we didnt have neighbors like them! Apart of me hopes she gets caught for driving without a valid license too! I reported her for that too, but I dont know what was said.

 

[Fedup]

momof3boys

I do not think you are going to win and you will wonder what did you do wrong and why is everybody against you, sorry to say this but I have a similar situation with a neighbor and this is the way I feel about him. Like huskymom said there must be someone you can report them to and report your landlord as well, mind you I tried the first part myself, I hope things work out for you soon. Sorry not much help.

 

[momof3boys]

The landlord isnt my landlord. We own our home, but we live next door to this home, who is being rented out to the family who does not take care of the home. The only thing I was told by law enforcement was to try to contact the landlord and tell them all of the concerns. Which we did, but based on what we saw last night, they are not going to do nothing to fix things. It makes our neighborhood took terriable. My next step is to see if the place that deals with landlords, gets back to me. I did contact them in regards to the repairs, and seeing the landlord is probably not going to fix them, I want to see if they will let me know if the repairs are something that is required by the landlord to fix, and if so, what needs to be done to get them fixed. My major concern is that with all the kids in the neighborhood, anything could happen. We have three kids under eight years old, and the last thing I want is for something to happen to one of them. So Im waiting to hear back from the place i contacted.

 

[Fedup]

momof3boys

I understand about the landlord and me I live in a semi-detached house (so my neighbors house is joined to mine) and he is putting us through hell and used to have his dinner, tea and christmas dinner with us, he was there nearly more than me and last month my brother in law started having problems as well, he has a baby boy and girl - you should see the state the neighbor has the back of the house in, its a mess and that is being nice about it.I really hope you have luck with the place deals with landlords and hopefully you will get a quick end to this, let me know how you are getting on, I will say some prayers for you.

 

[momof3boys]

Thank you Fedup. Its been a nightmare since their child assulted our child. I cant see how on earth parents can stick up for their child when it comes to taking a rock to another childs head!? They have two children, and now both children have been in trouble with the law. Police this year, during the school year, came to their door saying the school where their oldest goes to, took off, they couldnt find him, and they had to call police to report him missing. The parents were not home at the time, and the cops saw my son and I outside, and asked if we knew where the parents were, due to their son is missing from school. Now, their youngest son, has an assult documentation on him. I guess one thing they are good at is getting in trouble with the law. If I were in those parents shoes, I would be doing anything I possibly could to change my kid's lives around. Its so sad.

 

[tkopi]

Did you ever think about getting a restraining order againt them through the court system or the police. I'm not sure how you go about getting them but the family would have to leave you alone then.
It worked for my sister whenever her exhusband wouldn't leave her alone after their devorce. It's worth looking into. Good luck.

 

[CathyAnn31]

I'm so sorry about the crappy neighbors Kristin. Luckily I've never been in a situation like that.

Please don't take this the wrong way, but it's time to quit worrying about them and their kids. There's really nothing else you can do. Don't worry about expired drivers licenses, their rent, who lives there, what their kids do/have done...that's really none of your business. It's clear they won't be getting the Parent Of The Year award, know what I mean?

Stress isn't good for you. Try and stop worrying. The neighbors, landlord and dilapidated house will all self-destruct on their own. Karma, ya know.

Again, I'm not trying to be rude. I've read all your posts about your neighbors and while I'm sure it makes you feel better getting it all out here at CWE, it seems counterproductive to me, you worrying about what's going on over there.

Hopefully one day your neighbors can get their stuff together. Their kids need parenting!!!

***hugs***

 

[momof3boys]

Im not worried about them. Its their life, they can do as they please. The thing I dont like is them letting their kids go out on their porch and tell my five year old what they think of me. Saying Im a F**king Ass-hole, and that I should die, is not what I like about this family. The mother got so upset over this, she called me bipolar and said I was a rude person, and my kids are bad. Thats her opinion, Im not going to let her get to me. But as a parent, If I were in her shoes, I wouldnt allow my 12 year old son to speak his opinion about our neighbors to a five year old little boy. Like the officer said, we have every right to be outside on our property or the city property. They have no right to harrass us over what they think of us. We've been keeping our distance and was told not to have any communication with these people. Im just focusing on my family and whats best for us. I know Karma will get to them. Believe me, I believe in Karma all the way!

 

[MuayThaiFighter]

They should be lucky they aren't dealing with my mom when I was younger. If a young kid did something like that I would hope the kid could run fast. I love my mom to death but she's tough as nails and has no turn off switch. Either way, let the stress roll off you. Karma is real and she needs to parent her children and pray that her children further them selves. Or those harsh words and violence will be directed at her when they are fully grown.

 

[momof3boys]

Karma is real and she needs to parent her children and pray that her children further them selves. Or those harsh words and violence will be directed at her when they are fully grown.

I agree with you 100%!

I was just telling my husband a few days ago when the landlords showed up to speak to them, the exact same thing. They might be able to get away with things now, but wait til Karma gets them. Thats one thing I believe in!

 

[no.guru]

Thats her opinion, Im not going to let her get to me. But as a parent, If I were in her shoes, I wouldnt allow my 12 year old son to speak his opinion about our neighbors to a five year old little boy.

You're doing the right thing by not letting it get to you. If they're the type - and it sounds like they may be - if you show what bothers you, they will take advantage of it.

If they allow this behavior in their children now, it's going to be repeated later when they're older. They think it's OK against a neighbor when the kid's 12. We'll see how OK they are in a few years when their kid behaves the same way against them.

 

[momof3boys]

You're doing the right thing by not letting it get to you. If they're the type - and it sounds like they may be - if you show what bothers you, they will take advantage of it.

If they allow this behavior in their children now, it's going to be repeated later when they're older. They think it's OK against a neighbor when the kid's 12. We'll see how OK they are in a few years when their kid behaves the same way against them.

I agree with you. We've been keeping our distance and not saying one word to them. They love to stare at us and give us dirty looks. But we dont let it get to us. Prior to all of this starting, I felt really sorry for the family. The father worked long hours, and came home tired. The mother, for the past two years now, with both kids in full time school, has just stayed at home. I dont see why she cant even get a part time job to help with the income. They struggle so much. But the things that I couldnt figure out is if they have little to no income for food, how were the able to afford beer for the father, and cigerettes for all the adults? Going to the gas station which is about four blocks away, always coming back with tons of junk food. Its so expensive going to gas stations. I told the mother, it would be best if she goes to the grocery store, you pay less and get more for what you pay. Her reply back, "We dont have that much gas money to get there".... :roflmao:onder: yeah right. Then came the assult attack with her son. It was there that I drew the line. I got to see the real people these people are. Their parenting skills are so terriable, I first felt terriable for the kids, but now after seeing how the kids are treating my kids, I dont feel sorry for any of them at all. They know they can do better for themselves and they choose not to. Both of those kids are going to get into alot more trouble if they dont change their ways. But thats up to the parents to take care of that.

 

[CathyAnn31]

C'mon now, thought you weren't worried about them anymore. Who cares where their money goes, and why she doesn't work. It's their prerogative.

FYI- I'm a homemaker now since all 3 of my kids are in school.

 

[MaryK]

Kristin
At times it is really hard to understand why everyone does not think and act the way we do, does not have the moral upbringing etc. It all seems so obvious to us that if someone or some family would just 'do it this way' they would be so much happier, healthier, more financially sound, etc. After living a very long time (almost 60) I have learned that change comes hard for most and my reality and ideas are not shared by everyone.

I would try to just be an example and not be critical of everything they say or not say, do or not do, etc. Your heart is kind, but sometimes one person cannot change an entire family whose upbring appears to be totally different from yours. I definitely see your anger regarding the incident with your son, but that is in the past and cannot be changed.

Reread CathyAnn's posts.. You do seem to continue to worry about them and worry is not constructive or healthy for you or your family.

Take care. Sending positive thoughts your way.

Mary

 

[momof3boys]

C'mon now, thought you weren't worried about them anymore. Who cares where their money goes, and why she doesn't work. It's their prerogative.

FYI- I'm a homemaker now since all 3 of my kids are in school.

Im not worried about them at all. This was months ago that I asked the mother why they dont go to the grocery store, which is half a mile away, instead of going to the gas station and getting junk food. Im just making a point that they dont do whats best for their family and they are lazy. I could care less what they do with their money. Months ago I tried to point them in the right direction and they didnt want help. Thats up to them. Im focusing on my life and taking care of my own family. I could care less what they think or do with their lives.

 

[CathyAnn31]

It's clear you're not fully understanding what I'm trying to say so I'm done with this thread.

Good luck with everything Kristin.