Hi Laylasmom welcome to CWE!
It sounds like your daughter is having absence seizures (more info here:
http://www.epilepsy.com/epilepsy/seizure_absence). There are a number of treatment approaches -- not only medication, but neurofeedback and dietary modification as well. The ketogenic diet mentioned above is pretty rigid -- very low carb, high fat -- so you might also look into the Modified Atkins Diet. It's more flexible, and has a good track record against absence seizures. More info here:
http://www.atkinsforseizures.com/
Natural products alone may or may not help. EpiStill has had mixed reviews: See
http://www.coping-with-epilepsy.com/forums/f32/epi-still-1487/ It can help to take a good look at dietary and behavioral habits to look for areas where modifications might help. Certain nutrients -- magnesium, B Vitamins, fish oil -- are considered neuro-protective, so if she's getting a healthy balanced diet that can help. Getting good quality sleep can be key as well. More good tips here:
http://www.coping-with-epilepsy.com/forums/f22/proactive-prescription-epilepsy-1254/
Write down all the questions you have for the neurologist. Medication is often the first treatment a neurologist will propose, but if you are uncomfortable with that, don't hesitate to let the doc know and ask about alternatives. Here are some questions you may want to include:
-- Will there be any additional tests?
-- What are the recommendations for treatment?
-- If medication, what are the pros and cons?
-- Is the neurologist familiar with the Modified Atkins Diet treatment developed at Johns Hopkins, and can he help you with that treatment approach?
-- What should you watch for in terms of symptoms?
-- What should you watch for in terms of side effects (if going with medication)?
-- What's the general prognosis for Absence Seizures?
-- What sort of information should you provide the school?
-- How often will she need to see the neurologist for follow-up?
-- How can you get in touch with the neurologist with additional questions? Does he respond to email?
best,
Nakamova