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I have been thinking about something recently in regards to my father. He has been living with me due to his diabetes for the past 5 years. It all was fine until my seizures came back and I lost my job. Now I am on disability and spend most of my time at home. Since then he no longer does any housework, he never goes outside, almost never even leaves his room. He leaves his room only to go to the bathroom which adjoins his room and to get food, but he takes it to his room to eat.
What has really started to irritate me the worst of it is that when he wants to talk to me, he just tries to yell the conversation from his room to mine, which there are 3 walls between us, plus I have a fan running in my room and my earphones in listening to music when I am doing my work as since I am on disability I took on the role of Secretary at the Lodge, but do my work from home since I can't drive.
So anyways, today, he did the same thing, this time because the dog wanted food and the dish and food is right beside his bedroom. When I finally heard the dog I went to feed him and my father said something about him trying to tell me. I responded that I wasn't able to hear him because of the fan and my earphones. All he responds is that I should listen.
I am just wondering some opinions on this, as to me it is seeming pretty pathetic that he expects me to come to his room to talk to him when he has something to say or tries to have a conversation through the walls. In my opinion anymore, I would think he should come to where I am if he has a question rather than expecting me to go across the house. Not that it is hard for me, but more of an opinion on his laziness. If I don't respond eventually he calls my cell phone.
I am concerned as I will be going back in for surgery on Tuesday for a replacement RNS and so may not be able to do much, and doubt he will really care. Anyways, I have been the one he has been living with, I handle all of the finances, run all errands, and even have to pick up his prescriptions because he won't even transfer them to a pharmacy that delivers or transfer them to a closer one since I have to walk.
I have a sister and 2 brothers all of which have their own families, I have had to give up relationships and stay single to do all of this as one of my past relationships actually broke up with me because of how crude and vulgar he is. My siblings don't do anything involving it at all, one brother calls me, the other one calls once in awhile, however my sister never calls at all, haven't seen her since I let her stay with me when her husband kicked her out 2 years ago, she went back with him. Financially it has been an extreme burden as I have to try to live on 940 a month disability and my father only pays 450 of the bills, which are totalling 1100 to 1200 a month. I also have to try to live with my seizures which are severely refractory, and not a candidate for regular surgery so I am in a clinical trial.
To add to this I had to start seeing a therapist and a psych due to basically having a mental breakdown. My family seems to blow it off though like it's no big deal, but in the psychiatrists word, he said I was taking on too much. The epilepsy center said the same.
So, sorry to ramble on, but I am really just wondering, should he be coming to me to talk to me instead of what he does? And also, I'm not sure what to do on handling living with him. I know without his income I cannot handle the bills but with him here it is also horrible, and I am still having trouble making ends meet.
What has really started to irritate me the worst of it is that when he wants to talk to me, he just tries to yell the conversation from his room to mine, which there are 3 walls between us, plus I have a fan running in my room and my earphones in listening to music when I am doing my work as since I am on disability I took on the role of Secretary at the Lodge, but do my work from home since I can't drive.
So anyways, today, he did the same thing, this time because the dog wanted food and the dish and food is right beside his bedroom. When I finally heard the dog I went to feed him and my father said something about him trying to tell me. I responded that I wasn't able to hear him because of the fan and my earphones. All he responds is that I should listen.
I am just wondering some opinions on this, as to me it is seeming pretty pathetic that he expects me to come to his room to talk to him when he has something to say or tries to have a conversation through the walls. In my opinion anymore, I would think he should come to where I am if he has a question rather than expecting me to go across the house. Not that it is hard for me, but more of an opinion on his laziness. If I don't respond eventually he calls my cell phone.
I am concerned as I will be going back in for surgery on Tuesday for a replacement RNS and so may not be able to do much, and doubt he will really care. Anyways, I have been the one he has been living with, I handle all of the finances, run all errands, and even have to pick up his prescriptions because he won't even transfer them to a pharmacy that delivers or transfer them to a closer one since I have to walk.
I have a sister and 2 brothers all of which have their own families, I have had to give up relationships and stay single to do all of this as one of my past relationships actually broke up with me because of how crude and vulgar he is. My siblings don't do anything involving it at all, one brother calls me, the other one calls once in awhile, however my sister never calls at all, haven't seen her since I let her stay with me when her husband kicked her out 2 years ago, she went back with him. Financially it has been an extreme burden as I have to try to live on 940 a month disability and my father only pays 450 of the bills, which are totalling 1100 to 1200 a month. I also have to try to live with my seizures which are severely refractory, and not a candidate for regular surgery so I am in a clinical trial.
To add to this I had to start seeing a therapist and a psych due to basically having a mental breakdown. My family seems to blow it off though like it's no big deal, but in the psychiatrists word, he said I was taking on too much. The epilepsy center said the same.
So, sorry to ramble on, but I am really just wondering, should he be coming to me to talk to me instead of what he does? And also, I'm not sure what to do on handling living with him. I know without his income I cannot handle the bills but with him here it is also horrible, and I am still having trouble making ends meet.