Hi Elaine, I won't pretend to know exactly about your dad but I will share a break through my dad and I had several years ago.... My dad is British with the concept that you are seen and not heard coming from a very strong military background and serving in the military himself. He was raised in a time when to be identified as an epileptic was to be labeled crazy and to be taken away to a special home and never see your family again. When I first started having seizures suffice to say my dad didn't cope at all!! To add to the problem I suffered multiple injuries including dislocated shoulders and gashed head/arm each time I seizured. My mum always took me to hospital my mum always looked after me, my dad rarely spoke to me unless it was to yell how much I had cost him in drs and hospital bills. As I got older I eventually couldn't take it much more and yelled back. My dad was astonished that I thought he didn't love me or care about me. He believed he had been showing he love deeply for years by working hard to pay all of the bills. When I explained to my dad the way his actions made me feel he apologised and explained his childhood experiences and his wish to protect me not really understanding that where we lived times had definitely changed. Elaine I don't know if any of that is helpful in your situation except that it may give you hope that whilst people may do the wrong thing their motivation was good.
Keppra keppra keppra!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I've had another nasty experience because of Keppra folks! I had a friend of mine to stay last night (New Years Eve) Now he has epilepsy aswell, and takes, amongst other drugs, Keppra, 1500mg am and 1500mg pm. He is pretty much controlled, he must be, as he drives, although I've often wondered if he is completely honest about the regularity of his seizures, afraid to lose his license.
He arrived, quite calm and lucid, and although I was aware of his reputation as a heavy drinker, he took it steady. As the evening went, he tried to goad me into putting my coffee cup down, and starting to drink, I'd had a bad tummy all day, so was hesitant. We listened to music, and talked, very relaxing, and he obviously shared my love of music.
As the time wore on, he became louder, and as I wanted to switch the tv on for the midnight celebrations he made it clear that he wanted the music left on! He began pointing his finger at me, and texting and ignoring me, I sang along with the midnight festivities, getting a little nervous of his change in character and vivid descriptions of what it was like to smoke and take drugs aswell as drink too much, a pastime he obviously revels in on a regular basis, he has no comprehension of the harm he is doing to his 35 year old body, fags, drugs, booze, and anti-convulsants!!!!
Anyhow, I can look after myself in the no s--t stakes guys!! but, as he is a friend, I diplomatically asked him to leave, thinking he would call a taxi, or sleep in his car, apologise and wind his damn neck in, or whatever.... anyway he left. Keppra huh? I guess there is a common thread here, I like a drink, but not to the extent where it makes me like that, I have never ever got confrontational on alchohol, I just giggle, go red and talk a load of twaddle, at the worst case scenario maybe keel over and fall asleep, it's been many many years since I was ever like that though!!
So, HAPPY NEW YEAR guys, lets hope it's a great year!! This year, I have a huge list of things to achieve, just not sure how or where to start, it's frightening to think of what could be ahead, but I am am Optimist, a glass half full person, so I'll do my best, with my late mum in my heart, and her strength has made me the strong person I am today. I text my father Happy New Year Dad, but, I have not had a reply, as the saying goes..."The ball is in your court. "
He arrived, quite calm and lucid, and although I was aware of his reputation as a heavy drinker, he took it steady. As the evening went, he tried to goad me into putting my coffee cup down, and starting to drink, I'd had a bad tummy all day, so was hesitant. We listened to music, and talked, very relaxing, and he obviously shared my love of music.
As the time wore on, he became louder, and as I wanted to switch the tv on for the midnight celebrations he made it clear that he wanted the music left on! He began pointing his finger at me, and texting and ignoring me, I sang along with the midnight festivities, getting a little nervous of his change in character and vivid descriptions of what it was like to smoke and take drugs aswell as drink too much, a pastime he obviously revels in on a regular basis, he has no comprehension of the harm he is doing to his 35 year old body, fags, drugs, booze, and anti-convulsants!!!!
Anyhow, I can look after myself in the no s--t stakes guys!! but, as he is a friend, I diplomatically asked him to leave, thinking he would call a taxi, or sleep in his car, apologise and wind his damn neck in, or whatever.... anyway he left. Keppra huh? I guess there is a common thread here, I like a drink, but not to the extent where it makes me like that, I have never ever got confrontational on alchohol, I just giggle, go red and talk a load of twaddle, at the worst case scenario maybe keel over and fall asleep, it's been many many years since I was ever like that though!!
So, HAPPY NEW YEAR guys, lets hope it's a great year!! This year, I have a huge list of things to achieve, just not sure how or where to start, it's frightening to think of what could be ahead, but I am am Optimist, a glass half full person, so I'll do my best, with my late mum in my heart, and her strength has made me the strong person I am today. I text my father Happy New Year Dad, but, I have not had a reply, as the saying goes..."The ball is in your court. "
Keppra was the worst drug I have ever been on and only on it for about a month.
To everyone: if the drug makes your personality change for the worse, get off it. I am on Tegretol and that is fine, Keppra made my whole body tense.
Elaine, real friends understand, my father died, my mum has not talked to me since because I didnt invite her to the funeral, she divorced him 30 years earlier and absolutely hates my Dad. Sometimes, you have to accept you have lost a loved one and move on to more positive people.
2013. Know who your friends are!
To everyone: if the drug makes your personality change for the worse, get off it. I am on Tegretol and that is fine, Keppra made my whole body tense.
Elaine, real friends understand, my father died, my mum has not talked to me since because I didnt invite her to the funeral, she divorced him 30 years earlier and absolutely hates my Dad. Sometimes, you have to accept you have lost a loved one and move on to more positive people.
2013. Know who your friends are!
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To everyone: Some of the AED's are also used for mood disorders as well, and many of them can also make moods worse, Keppra being one of them, causing KEPPRAGE! I've been on 13 AED's after brain surgery and VNS and NOTHING works!! The neuro doesn't know what to do with me.
