I used to be obsessive about our daughter and her epilepsy. Constant worry, constant checking in on her etc. I finally had to draw the line because not only was it annoying to her, but wearing me out. We now have lines, kind of like Nakamova was talking about. For example I dont want to ask her twice a day if shes taken her pills, and she feels like a baby when I ask so we keep her pill organizer someplace that I can see it. I can peek at it, and I know if shes taken them or not. If she hasnt I just say "dont forget to take your pills".
Statistically speaking men want to 'fix' and this is something that he cant 'fix' however, it probably makes him feel better and more involved and more in control to know how you feel at every moment, what you have or havent eaten etc... Maybe put your pill organizer where he can see it so he doesnt have to ask you. Get a bulletin board to post a check sheet with breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks so all you have to do is put a checkmark and he'll know that you already ate. Just some ideas.
Below is how I feel, and maybe how he is feeling too...
It is so hard to watch somebody I love and care about have seizures. I truely feel so increadibly helpless. I worry that she is in pain and of course she doesnt remember it so she couldnt tell me if she had been in pain. I worry that this might be the one that she doesnt come out of..what would I do without her in my life? I have been able to protect her from the boogy man, the spider on the wall, the snake in the back yard and been able to stand up for her when she wasnt able to stand up for herself. It kills me to know there is nothing I can do to make this go away, to make it better. I cant smoosh it with my foot and I cant turn on the lights so she can see its all ok. Im her mom, im supposed to be able to protect her right? Not this time, the only way I feel like I am protecting her is to make sure shes taken her pills, goes to bed at a decent time, and makes some healthier food choices. I try not to be pushy and obsessive and when I am, its because its the only thing I know to do and the only thing left that I have control over.
i normally have to go to hospitail my main problem tho is my partner has become so obsessed with my epilepsy he worries to the point it is affecting our relationship ,he says he cant help but worry he is always asking if im ok if iv eatten if im to tired ect its become obbsesive he says he knows he has a peoblem cus he just cant stop panicing but at the same time all this is making me feel like an abnormal freek HELP
