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I was so looking forward to spending the last couple of days getting ready for our oldest son's 8th birthday party, we had today. But, things took a different turn on sunday. We did some errons, came home and was getting ready for supper, when our middle son came in from the front yard with blood running down the side of his head. I freaked out! I hurried to get a cloth to put pressure on his head and we headed directly to the ER. On our way out the door, my husband goes over to the neighbors to get our youngest boy. He was talking with the neighbor boy. They had two older teenage boys in their yard and what happened to our son, they saw. turned out, the neighbors little boy, who is in the same grade as our middle son, took a rock and threw it at his head. A HUGE rock. This little boy has ADHD and has been off his medications for a month now. Ive seen what a difference this has made on him. During the school year he was taking it and was such a sweet calm child. But since school was let out for summer, the parents said they have decided not to give their son his medications because they can not afford it. Due to their decision, he has been a very angry, mean little boy to be around. The medication made him calm and he didnt have his behavior problems. Just a couple of days before this took place, this little boy got mad at me because I wouldnt allow him in our backyard, and when I told him he needed go to back home, he took two handfuls of rocks and threw them at me and the fence to our backyard. I told his mother and of course she said she didnt believe me.
We had to report this to the police when we went to ER. They took pictures, a report and due to this child being under the age of 7, (which he turns 7 July 11th) they could only document this and not take any further action. They did speak to the parents, and yesterday, I spoke with the mother who didnt even apologize for their sons actions. She said her son didnt do anything wrong, and that she saw our son push her son, so he had every right to defend himself. But defending himself in my eyes, is not right by taking a huge rock the size of my hand and throwing it at another child's head.
Thankfully, our son didnt have to have stitches, but the dr came close to putting some glue on it, but decided against it at the end. They said as long as its kept clean and has no signs of infection, he should be good. But again, it made us have a $100 copay. This family has NO money at all. There are so many concerns for this family I have, that during the time the police officer was taking my statement, he asked me questions about the family, so I told him what I thought was my concerns.
He called me yesterday, the day after this took place and said that the information I gave him, had to be handed over to Child Protective Services. The conditions in the home are just aweful. Pets all over the place, pooping on the floors, and furniture. The carpets are so terriable it looks like there are tar like stuff on them thats hard to the touch. No food at all in the home. The parents have told us that they were behind on their bills and had no food to feed the kids. The smaller child who did this has been coming to our kids asking for food because his stomach hurts.
With this child not being given the medication he needs to control his behavior, it resulted in my son getting injured, and the police officer said thats considered neglect. he is a special needs child, and by taking his medication away, its harmful and not right at all. The father has a problem with drinking so much, that last week he passed out on their porch after drinking a 12 pack of beer and vodka. The mother sent her youngest over to our house to ask for my husband, to see if he could check if her husband was even breathing. One thing Ive always wondered is how in the world can they afford beer, but cant afford food for their children? I mean its common sense to put your children first. Who needs beer when you have two children to feed. Its a horriable situation. I had to confront the mother and tell her to keep her children off of our property and I was not allowing my children to have any contact with them due to their actions with how they are handling their children. Their decision to not give their son his medication he needs, has resulted in our son getting hurt.
We did go to a hospital who offers financial assitance, and I called the billing dept today to ask if we could have the papers sent to us. i pray to god it is covered, We have a $100 co pay and we dont have alot of extra money on hand. Especially covering something that could have been prevented. The father does work, so if it comes down to it, the police officer told me we would have to take them to small claims court to get them to pay the medical bills if they are not covered. they said they would garnish his wages if he came down to it.
Im having such a horriable time with this. Just more stress and worry to deal with.
On the good note though we did have a great birthday party for our son this evening. His birthday is tomorrow, but we celebrated it today since everyone in our familes had to work tomorrow.
sorry this is so long... I just had to get this off my chest.
We had to report this to the police when we went to ER. They took pictures, a report and due to this child being under the age of 7, (which he turns 7 July 11th) they could only document this and not take any further action. They did speak to the parents, and yesterday, I spoke with the mother who didnt even apologize for their sons actions. She said her son didnt do anything wrong, and that she saw our son push her son, so he had every right to defend himself. But defending himself in my eyes, is not right by taking a huge rock the size of my hand and throwing it at another child's head.
Thankfully, our son didnt have to have stitches, but the dr came close to putting some glue on it, but decided against it at the end. They said as long as its kept clean and has no signs of infection, he should be good. But again, it made us have a $100 copay. This family has NO money at all. There are so many concerns for this family I have, that during the time the police officer was taking my statement, he asked me questions about the family, so I told him what I thought was my concerns.
He called me yesterday, the day after this took place and said that the information I gave him, had to be handed over to Child Protective Services. The conditions in the home are just aweful. Pets all over the place, pooping on the floors, and furniture. The carpets are so terriable it looks like there are tar like stuff on them thats hard to the touch. No food at all in the home. The parents have told us that they were behind on their bills and had no food to feed the kids. The smaller child who did this has been coming to our kids asking for food because his stomach hurts.
With this child not being given the medication he needs to control his behavior, it resulted in my son getting injured, and the police officer said thats considered neglect. he is a special needs child, and by taking his medication away, its harmful and not right at all. The father has a problem with drinking so much, that last week he passed out on their porch after drinking a 12 pack of beer and vodka. The mother sent her youngest over to our house to ask for my husband, to see if he could check if her husband was even breathing. One thing Ive always wondered is how in the world can they afford beer, but cant afford food for their children? I mean its common sense to put your children first. Who needs beer when you have two children to feed. Its a horriable situation. I had to confront the mother and tell her to keep her children off of our property and I was not allowing my children to have any contact with them due to their actions with how they are handling their children. Their decision to not give their son his medication he needs, has resulted in our son getting hurt. We did go to a hospital who offers financial assitance, and I called the billing dept today to ask if we could have the papers sent to us. i pray to god it is covered, We have a $100 co pay and we dont have alot of extra money on hand. Especially covering something that could have been prevented. The father does work, so if it comes down to it, the police officer told me we would have to take them to small claims court to get them to pay the medical bills if they are not covered. they said they would garnish his wages if he came down to it.
Im having such a horriable time with this. Just more stress and worry to deal with.
On the good note though we did have a great birthday party for our son this evening. His birthday is tomorrow, but we celebrated it today since everyone in our familes had to work tomorrow.
sorry this is so long... I just had to get this off my chest.
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