Coping With Epilepsy EEG Centre For Neurofeedback
10% off neurofeedback training for CWE members - Tyrone, NC
Neurofeedback Partner - Free Advertisement
 

Go Back   Epilepsy Forum > Our House > Back Fence



Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
  #1  
Old 01-25-2015, 03:36 PM
MMRocks's Avatar
Joined the Party
Recent Blog: Life Before B12
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Posts: 85
Thanks: 70
Thanked 34 Times in 21 Posts

Lightbulb Sex


Anyone else have a history of multiple partners, because you felt unable to turn down sex? Or you didn't know it was heading in that direction until it was too late?

As a teen, I didn't really understand sex. I had a reputation in high school as being 'easy' and consequently guys hit on me all the time. I didn't 'get it' and would find myself in a sexual situation and see no way out of it... I had sex many times I did not want to, with people I didn't want to, even in places I didn't want to. I was never able to say no when being pressured.

Now I'm just learning about seizures, and I wonder if there is any sort of connection. Thanks to anyone brave enough to answer, I know sex is a sensitive subject.
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 01-25-2015, 06:07 PM
lindsayschu2's Avatar
Esteemed Pillar of the Community
 
Join Date: Dec 2013
Posts: 784
Thanks: 272
Thanked 361 Times in 278 Posts
I don't know your personal seizure history. But I have read that there is not only a connection between sexual abuse and non-epileptic seizures, but I also read there is a higher likelihood of developing temporal lobe epilepsy if a child was sexually abused, something about how the brain forms in reaction to the abuse. I don't remember where I read that--it was years ago, and it was a study--it stuck out for me because my history includes both (I do have verified epilepsy and not psychogenic seizures). Please understand I am not suggesting anything about your past, but there could be a connection between what is essentially unwanted sex and your seizures. Maybe if you haven't had counselling to talk about your issues around sex, it might not hurt? Anything emotionally taxing and difficult puts stress on you, and can decrease your seizure threshold. I think, even if there is no connection whatsoever between seizures and your issue with sexual pressure, you DESERVE to be able to say no. Everyone does. You are special, and deserve the right to respect your own body and set limits. Finding out why you feel this way and learning how to say no is a caring thing you can do for yourself. It may help your seizures or it may not, but it will help you. I understand where you are coming from--I just turned 50 and had a long road to resolving my own issues early in life and am very glad I did.
Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to lindsayschu2 For This Useful Post:
MMRocks (01-25-2015), Nakamova (01-25-2015)
  #3  
Old 01-25-2015, 10:27 PM
Super Moderator / Thank You Queen
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Massachusetts
Posts: 16,419
Thanks: 943
Thanked 7,308 Times in 5,391 Posts
Below is a link to an article that talks about possible correlations between childhood abuse and temporal lobe epilepsy or other brain abnormalities.
http://www.dana.org/Cerebrum/2000/Wo...f_Child_Abuse/

You may also find this CWE thread of interest:
http://www.coping-with-epilepsy.com/...disorder-8461/

As Lindsay says, even if abuse is not part of your particular history, or if your seizures are unrelated to your past history of sexual disempowerment, you may still find that counseling can play a significant role in your overall health and wellbeing.
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Nakamova For This Useful Post:
MMRocks (01-25-2015)
  #4  
Old 01-25-2015, 10:57 PM
MMRocks's Avatar
Joined the Party
Recent Blog: Life Before B12
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Posts: 85
Thanks: 70
Thanked 34 Times in 21 Posts
lindsayschu2 I do have a history of very young sexual abuse. I have been in therapy past 4 years- wish I'd started sooner! So I considered years ago that my inability to say no as a teen was probably from the abuse. I can, and do, say no now.

Now here I am with temporal lobe seizures, have been reading how it affects people's sex drives, that some people seizure after orgasm, and other connections between seizures and sex, and it got me to thinking. Was it my temporal lobe the whole time?

Lindsay I really appreciate how gently you approached and discussed, thank you for your tact. Nakamova thanks for the links, I will research this. I love research

Still if anyone else feels there is a Direct link, feel free to chime in.
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 01-25-2015, 11:04 PM
MMRocks's Avatar
Joined the Party
Recent Blog: Life Before B12
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Posts: 85
Thanks: 70
Thanked 34 Times in 21 Posts
Hey! Geschwind's syndrome!!

"Geschwind's includes...altered sexuality (usually hyposexuality)...in epilepsy patients."

Huzzah! I knew it!

and oh wow, I have all the other markers of Geschwind, including the compulsion to write! I love the internet <3
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 11:00 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® - Copyright ©2000 - 2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Content Relevant URLs by vBSEO ©2009, Crawlability, Inc.
Copyright 2005 Measuring Up. ALL rights reserved.