Do I tell her??

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I would like to know the the general feeling is on whether I should tell my wife, who gets TC seizures ±1or2x per year, everything that happens to her.

I guess my thinking is that if it were to happen to me I'd want to have a video of it to see what I do and want to know weird things I say/do.

My gut instinct is to say that I'm pretty sure most guys who suffer from TC seizures are to a degree lucky not to see themselves in a mirror afterwards due to the possible "haunting" afterwards.

Any thoughts? Is it good to know? or better to not go into detail to avoid increasing the risk of being anxious about it?
 
Why don't you ask her if she wants to know? Everyone is different in this respect. Maybe she's not in the right place to hear the details now, but would want to know later.

I've never seen what I look like seizing. I don't think I would mind seeing a video --it would give me a better idea of why my body feels so lousy afterwards. The anxiety isn't an issue (for me) because I'm already able to get plenty anxious with or without knowing what I look like when I flop around. Not knowing hasn't stopped me from having the occasional nightmare about having a seizure. My imagination can fill in the details.

On the other hand, after nearly 20 t-cs, the individual details are less interesting. If I never get the full picture that's okay too.
 
Personally, I'd

ask her first. But I'm with Nak on every point there. I can vividly imagine why my body feels the way it does after one of my t-c's. URG. I too have never seen what I look like, though I have had it described to me a couple of times.

I'm truly ambivalent on really knowing the whole picture...
 
I think thats a really tough one as Meetz,and Nak have both stated in their posts.But as thy say only your wife can give you a truthful answer,she may say no now,but as time passes gradually come round to the idea.I know personally myself at the begining there was no way i wanted to know what had happend,just go to bed,sleep it off and carry on as normal or as normal can be.I can handle been told whats what now,but a video off myself,nah i just dont think im ready for that yet.
 
As everyone said, ask her and see if she wants to know.

I always ask my husband what I did. Alot of times I do really stupid things, sometimes we both get a good laugh about it.

He did video tape me once during a seizure. I kept trying to put a pillow case with the pillow on my foot like a sock. He kept trying to take it off of me but I just wouldn't give it up so he let me keep it till I came out of the seizure, this was the one he taped me during. We still laugh about it.
 
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