Here's a slap in the face.

[LJ-Bain]

I always worry about how my health affects my children.
I think they do ok.

This is what the teacher of my eldest daughter thinks on her senior kindergarten report card.

"Because of her home situation, it is very difficult to give a fair picture
of how she has progressed this year. She tends to daydream much of the
time and will need constant reminders to try to focus."

Ouch.

I think the teacher has high standards or perhaps mine have dropped because I worry more about her emotional health rather than how well she can read.

Now I wonder if my health skews how the teachers view her which is totally beyond my control.

Anybody else have to deal with this?

 

[epileric]

I don't have any kids but if you do decide to confront the issue with the teacher I think you should have her define how she perceives your daughters "home situation".

Her conclusion might be based on inaccurate assumptions.

 

[rich956]

OMG
where did she come from!sorry but what she said feels like being kicked in the stomach several times by an angry mule. How rude...:twocents::agree:

 

[MaryK]

WHAT!!!!

Unless this teacher had talked to you throughout the year about what she has written on the report card she is way out of line... totally. If she had noticed this all year and this is the first time you have heard about it I believe she was irresponsible. Have you noticed your daughter day-dreaming? I would go by what you witness and what your Mom and husband and other extended family observe.

((((LJ)))))

Mary

 

[julie wishes]

I don't have any kids but if you do decide to confront the issue with the teacher I think you should have her define how she perceives your daughters "home situation".

Her conclusion might be based on inaccurate assumptions.

:agree: I would start here. Maybe even have her superior in the room. Then ask for a review of your child, not your home life. Many things come to mind, but unless you get this clarification first, its hard to comment. Really quite a strange comment if you ask me. On the other hand, if it is affecting your daughter more than you realized, then good to know now and try to remedy the situation as much as possible.

Unfortunately, my kids were affected by my situation this past year. I tried hard to avoid it, but it is the harsh truth. I've been in tears many times over this fact. :crying:

 

[LJ-Bain]

I really should say that this teacher has been really kind to me and she does know about my health. She is on the "care committee" that we are the grateful recipients of gifts from them consisting of care packages, home made cookies, home made meals, and wal-mart gift cards, and people calling asking if I need to be driven to the grocery store...fabulous, right?

I think this teacher is a good person. My daughter is fiesty, she won't get pushed around in life and I'm proud of her spirit.
It's very difficult to get her interested in something she simply doesn't want to do.
I know this too well.
So Mary K, to be fair, she has kept me up to date all year long.
I think that they just didn't mesh. Unfortunately she had her for JK and SK.
The teacher has a reputation for running a tight ship (I have learned) which some kids respond well to but not my little girl. I'm actually proud that my daughter didn't have more melt downs at school. I hope the teacher for Grade 1 will have a different style.

I'm just sad that this is on her permanent school record. Why did they have to vaguely mention her "home situation"? Other teachers will refer to this and wonder too. Will they view her differently? It's just something I didn't want to have to think about. She did write some kind things down on her report card too.

I also know that just because someone doesn't do well in school doesn't mean they won't do well in life but I mean, she's only just turning 6! Perhaps I'm just creating things to worry about.
Thanks for the input guys. Perhaps I should be angry but it just hurt.

 

[LJ-Bain]

Julie...I'm sorry to hear that your kids were affected. I mean, of course it does but we try so hard to shelter them but kids are really sensitive to their environments.
How are they doing now?
I just cross my fingers that love will help shelter them from the storm.
I try to have lots of cuddle sessions and try to get them to talk about things but it is such a part of their every day life that I don't even think they know how it affects them anymore.

Only that their mommy might be different than other mommies.

 

[Silat]

It's very difficult to get her interested in something she simply doesn't want to do.

I also know that just because someone doesn't do well in school doesn't mean they won't do well in life but I mean, she's only just turning 6!

This was the story of my life during K - 12...
I like to think I turned out pretty alright...
Drove my parents and teachers crazy though.

 

[MaryK]

Over the years I worried about various comments placed on my children's report cards, but they never seemed to have a positive or negative impact. I believe most teachers see the comment section as being subjective and what one teacher might say another would possibly disagree with. I would try not to worry. If you know a 1st grade teacher you think would match your daughter's personality maybe you could request she be placed in that room.