How do I tell Dr. and others

[jyearta]

I haven't posted this question before, because it is embarrasing to me....wellllll here it goes.

When I go to Dr. I to tell that I was diag. until after I was married, BECAUSE my parents would put me in a closet.


I have learned to being open ,hoping to educate people on E., but I don't know how to answer those type of questions. I'm 60 years old and back then people just didn't want to deal with it.

Does anyone else have a situation like this and how do you handle it.

 

[MaeDae]

I have had some other issues that I found hard to tell medical professionals, such as child beating and abuse and how disfunctional my family was, and why I tried many times as a teen to end it. I just came out and said it. I shocked one therapist (marriage counselor) to the degree that he wanted to write a book. I think of it as an opportunity to educate and make others aware.

 

[Cint]

I have had some other issues that I found hard to tell medical professionals, such as child beating and abuse and how disfunctional my family was, and why I tried many times as a teen to end it. I just came out and said it. I shocked one therapist (marriage counselor) to the degree that he wanted to write a book. I think of it as an opportunity to educate and make others aware.

This is all the more reason to tell, especially since you have E and a history of child abuse. There is a connection research is finding out. My epileptologist asked me once if there is abuse in my background. IMO, when anyone with E or other brain issues seeks counseling, go to someone with a PhD, not just any marriage counselor. Better yet, a neuropsychiatrist.

 

[Fedup]

I haven't posted this question before, because it is embarrasing to me....wellllll here it goes.

When I go to Dr. I to tell that I was diag. until after I was married, BECAUSE my parents would put me in a closet.


I have learned to being open ,hoping to educate people on E., but I don't know how to answer those type of questions. I'm 60 years old and back then people just didn't want to deal with it.

Does anyone else have a situation like this and how do you handle it.

I know just what you mean, its not that simple to tell someone. Coming to terms with it yourself is the first important thing to do after that deciding who to tell where and when. But yes you have to talk to someone. I am 49 and you are right situations like this were not dealt with or spoken about or anything else. I still have the dreams.

 

[Nakamova]

Doctors have seen and heard it all. Don't be afraid to tell your doctor about your situation -- it's their job to listen and help, not to judge and dismiss.

 

[DayDreamer]

I like to bring my printed page of questions/topics of discussion to my medical appointments. I usually hand them to the doctor. It serves as a reminder as what I don't want forgotten. It may be easier to write something down rather than speak it, and simply have it read.

 

[Fedup]

DayDreamer

I like bring, I used to bring them all the time, not now but a lot of the time and it helped a lot. Writing something down is a lot easier that I agree with a lot but even trying to write this is to say the lest hard. The first and last time it was spoken about with regards to me was at my fathers funeral. I walked out, cannot explain.

 

[jyearta]

I have written all my info. down and give a copy to my Dr. - THEN the look and I know they don't mean too put me in an bad situation. They look at me like I'm suppose to say something more.

I have refer to this (I guess in my introduction) and it was hard to write that. But since I'm not looking you all in the eye, it was different.

I do so much appt. all your input.

I don"t think of that much at all, it just when I'm asked
Why was you Dias. so late.

 

[Fedup]

jyearta

All I can say is keep at it.

 

[valeriedl]

I don't know if you take anyone in with you when you see your dr or if you do it in a one on one basis.

If it's just you and the dr then it's easier to tell him things that you feel you don't want the whole world to know and he can give you advice about how to tell people. The dr needs to know what's going on with you so he can help you out better.