Missing my family

[JustcallmeG]

7 mnths ago, us newly weds moved 5 hrs away from everything we have ever knew, for me everything that was safe, my back up. My daddy My best friends, my cousins. I figured, we were only 5 hrs away, and we would be coming back to see my dr ever 4 mnths, that it wouldn't be a big deal. We would be in touch, so its not that serious...

My husband is a truck driver, some weeks he's home constantly, some I barely see him at all... not any longer than to eat something, watch him sleep, and get his lunch box ready to head back out the door. I can't work, or drive, I have no friends here to keep my mind off of how alone I really am here, and how much more I relied on everyone, physically and emotionally than I could possibly realize. Today, I asked my cousin for his fathers phone number, so I could call him to wish him happy fathers day. As soon as he heard my voice, I heard the emotion in him, and how much he missed me, my uncle is a very hard man on the outside, and very few people he shows who he is on the inside... me being one of them... not really sure of any others. He just poured out, when I hung up I cried my eyes out. Not realising how much I missed just hearing his voice... ::sigh::

Besides my parents, and my one cousin... no one else has come to visit, NO ONE, like they said they would. It makes me sick. Two of my friends have, but... my aunts, my uncles who promised... they don't even bother answering my calls... a text now and again... I miss my old life sometimes.

 

[julie wishes]

sweetie... why did you move? And maybe you need a plan to move back.

 

[little fruitcake]

Do you have close public transportation? I was sorta in the same situation years ago, and I started just getting on the bus and riding anywhere. I would get off at libraries, visit people who where lonely at hospitals, shopping areas to window shop, all kinds of places. In the mean time hang out here with us. There is so much to learn here. Welcome.

 

[Nakamova]

And don't hesitate to let your friends and family know that you are in need of their contact right now -- sometimes folks truly are unaware, and just need a heads-up.

 

[Cint]

Years ago when I was a newlywed and just diagnosed with E, we moved 1500 miles from home. At the time, I was married to a pilot so had to go where he was going to be able to fly out from. I do know how difficult it is to find friends when you aren't able to drive or do "ordinary" things. I didn't know anyone in the community at the time, so had to find ways to get around.

Is there an Epilepsy Foundation where you live that you could contact? How about a church with some sort of outreach program? As fruitcake mentioned, is there public transportation so you can visit libraries, bookstores, etc? Or do volunteer work at a hospital if your seizures are controlled enough? I did that once. I also have done volunteer work with the local Epilepsy Foundation off and on.

Don't hesitate to let others know you are in need of some help.

 

[JustcallmeG]

@ Julie, Trust me, we wouldn't have moved if it wasn't in out best interest. It was a hard decision, because everything was so new, the type of job he had, me suddenly not being able to work any more. He needed to find a position where he made a lot of money to compensate for my loss, health insurance for us both, and ability to be home at least 90 percent of the nights, for his peace of mind, and mine as well. I tore my parents apart as well, didn't aggree at first. There house was for sale anyway, and they are planning on moving to FL. I can't go to FL. I needed a place driveable distance to my dr.

Little Fruitcake, Public transportation is a joke upstate NY. Places that have it, are just clueless, including my town. Taxi's are taxi's, but you have to tell them how to get everywhere, they have no clue... I have to gps for them all the time, its hilarious. Every place I need to go is a ways, it gets expensive. Bus transportation is well... a waste of time.

@Cint, I am not glad that you have gone through what you have, but glad you do understand what I am going through. Luckily lately things have been getting so much better with my husband. I was contemplating doing volunteer work at a food bank, but it kind of fell through. Its very far, and I wanted to save money for my riding lessons, which aren't close either, and not cheap, but my husband say's "To hell with the money, your going, all I want is you to be happy, so get your butt back on a horse!" LOL, so im finding a way.

I am so glad to have found this place, and all of you people.

 

[julie wishes]

Awesome I'm glad you have your husband ... he seems to know how to cheer you up. I lost my job too, good money, benefits... the works. Trying to figure it all out now.

 

[JustcallmeG]

It was hard for me, I am such a hard working person, it makes me sick not to be able to work. Doc say's no more.
Hubby knows how to bring me down, and cheer me up. lol but I love him even when I hate him. <3

 

[little fruitcake]

G, sorry to hear about the transportation situation. I hope you get to go riding soon.

 

[JustcallmeG]

Thank you little fruitcake, but no worries. My husband and I set up some lessons at two different places. Hopefully he'll be home to take me a little bit more, since his job has been better at being scheduling and being fair.