Jason Marchelak
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Hi, I just recently came across your website and thought I would share my story.
On December 12th 2008 not long after my mum's 46th birthday (17/9/62) I and my brother (Daniel) had decided to visit mum as she wasn't answering her phone on her mobile, which was odd as she always would answer. Well basically Mum was left alone round Daniel's room, shared accomodation, and she locked the door behind her after my brother was arrested by the police for an outstanding warrant. 3 days later he was released from custody and explained the situation to me and I thought it would be best if we go and see her.... Anyway I live in England, and was living in Leigh-on-Sea in Essex and Daniel came round mine, we had no money and we both had drinking problems (I will also discuss this further later) so we decided to steal 4 cans of stella called (Grande) strange that because after opening them I said (over Southend football ground where me and my brother sat down to drink one) I hope my mum hasn't had a tonic-clonic seizure. I was worried because she had these in the past tho infrequent, she suffered mostly from petit mal fits and regaining conciousness within seconds..... We both bunked the train to Brentwood and because Daniel had no keys and were left inside the building where our mum was we were let in by an elderly lady, and Daniel managed to break the first door into the communal area, hence no keys, and shouted out through the letter box "MUM" no response....so we bashed that door down then I was frozen stiff in shock! The place was a mess, the TV was still on face down on the floor, an upside down chair and mess everywhere, I didn't iniatially find her straight away until I look down on the floor, and my heart just sank in disbelief and I said to my brother Mum is down there, look, face down on the floor on a duvet. I thought she was drunk as she was an alcoholic who detoxed and then eventually devolped epilepsy as a result of the brain damage accompanying the illness. I shook her and I tried waking her up in a desperate attempt to regain her conciousness but I knew it, she was gone, I took a look at her face her eyes were wide shut and there was congealed blood from her nose and I ran outside of the room and called 999 in a full blown major panic attack.....After the paramedics came I was escorted out with Daniel into a police van where they assessed what was going on I couldn't stop crying, I was shrieking in heartache, and the nasty Police officer told me to stop crying as I was drawing attention to myself, i replied MY MUM IS F*****G DEAD how would you feel! After that nearly 4 years down the line I am still trying to come to terms with her loss and so young, such a shame how life can be so cruel to someone who gets better after drinking for years and just suddenly dies 2 years after. However, grieving over mum took me and daniel to the edge and I am now a recovering binge alcoholic and been dry for 5 months now and I am only 23, my brother has a serious problem also, but he doesnt address this yet. I have had alcohol withdrawal seizures before, totally unaware of them when they happened, and I was shocked, but on 2 occassions I actually felt them coming on as my head would turn i would start to shake and my arm would go up into the air, I get told I go into a bundle and just stare without convulsions but have had them in the past through previous detoxifications, and Daniel also suffers the same and they are most always convulsive. I have had my tests like EEG and MRI and results showed no abnormatlity... Ever since I found out my mum had epilepsy and the death of her triggered me emotionally to help other people who experience this as I have had, tho not epileptic, but symptomic results leading my fits. In the death certificate it said natural causes and was epilepsy, but I will never understand what happened why didn't she just wake up after it, why die? I don't understand what happened? Maybe status or one after the other, I know about them after being diagnosed with bacterial meningitis last year and had multiple fits and was taken in and fully recovered.
I know she wouldn't of suffered but the scene was so distressing I still have difficulty coming to terms with what I saw and my loss...
On December 12th 2008 not long after my mum's 46th birthday (17/9/62) I and my brother (Daniel) had decided to visit mum as she wasn't answering her phone on her mobile, which was odd as she always would answer. Well basically Mum was left alone round Daniel's room, shared accomodation, and she locked the door behind her after my brother was arrested by the police for an outstanding warrant. 3 days later he was released from custody and explained the situation to me and I thought it would be best if we go and see her.... Anyway I live in England, and was living in Leigh-on-Sea in Essex and Daniel came round mine, we had no money and we both had drinking problems (I will also discuss this further later) so we decided to steal 4 cans of stella called (Grande) strange that because after opening them I said (over Southend football ground where me and my brother sat down to drink one) I hope my mum hasn't had a tonic-clonic seizure. I was worried because she had these in the past tho infrequent, she suffered mostly from petit mal fits and regaining conciousness within seconds..... We both bunked the train to Brentwood and because Daniel had no keys and were left inside the building where our mum was we were let in by an elderly lady, and Daniel managed to break the first door into the communal area, hence no keys, and shouted out through the letter box "MUM" no response....so we bashed that door down then I was frozen stiff in shock! The place was a mess, the TV was still on face down on the floor, an upside down chair and mess everywhere, I didn't iniatially find her straight away until I look down on the floor, and my heart just sank in disbelief and I said to my brother Mum is down there, look, face down on the floor on a duvet. I thought she was drunk as she was an alcoholic who detoxed and then eventually devolped epilepsy as a result of the brain damage accompanying the illness. I shook her and I tried waking her up in a desperate attempt to regain her conciousness but I knew it, she was gone, I took a look at her face her eyes were wide shut and there was congealed blood from her nose and I ran outside of the room and called 999 in a full blown major panic attack.....After the paramedics came I was escorted out with Daniel into a police van where they assessed what was going on I couldn't stop crying, I was shrieking in heartache, and the nasty Police officer told me to stop crying as I was drawing attention to myself, i replied MY MUM IS F*****G DEAD how would you feel! After that nearly 4 years down the line I am still trying to come to terms with her loss and so young, such a shame how life can be so cruel to someone who gets better after drinking for years and just suddenly dies 2 years after. However, grieving over mum took me and daniel to the edge and I am now a recovering binge alcoholic and been dry for 5 months now and I am only 23, my brother has a serious problem also, but he doesnt address this yet. I have had alcohol withdrawal seizures before, totally unaware of them when they happened, and I was shocked, but on 2 occassions I actually felt them coming on as my head would turn i would start to shake and my arm would go up into the air, I get told I go into a bundle and just stare without convulsions but have had them in the past through previous detoxifications, and Daniel also suffers the same and they are most always convulsive. I have had my tests like EEG and MRI and results showed no abnormatlity... Ever since I found out my mum had epilepsy and the death of her triggered me emotionally to help other people who experience this as I have had, tho not epileptic, but symptomic results leading my fits. In the death certificate it said natural causes and was epilepsy, but I will never understand what happened why didn't she just wake up after it, why die? I don't understand what happened? Maybe status or one after the other, I know about them after being diagnosed with bacterial meningitis last year and had multiple fits and was taken in and fully recovered.
I know she wouldn't of suffered but the scene was so distressing I still have difficulty coming to terms with what I saw and my loss...
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