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Spanking a child is wrong
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I think spanking is ok. But what you are describing is child abuse not spanking which is not ok.
I was spanked when I was little and I always got a warning before I was. The things that I was spanked for I deserved it and it was just one swat on my butt not 10 or 20. And I had to be doing something bad not just a little no-no.
When I was little there weren't that many privileges to be taken away. There were no computers, internet, video games, tv in my room, cell phones and many other things like there are today. I lived out in the country and there were no kids to go outside and play with so that wasn't something that could be taken away either. Really the only thing my parents could do was make me stay in my room or sit in a corrner where I would just kick the walls like crazy when I was there.
I'll even give my cats a little swat on the butt if they are doing something bad, not a hit that's going to make them scream or go flying across the room. They also have to be doing something bad like eating the plant, scratching the furnature or the rug, getting on the counters and things like that. They also get a warning first. I notice now that when they get that warning they stop what they are doing.
I was spanked when I was little and I always got a warning before I was. The things that I was spanked for I deserved it and it was just one swat on my butt not 10 or 20. And I had to be doing something bad not just a little no-no.
When I was little there weren't that many privileges to be taken away. There were no computers, internet, video games, tv in my room, cell phones and many other things like there are today. I lived out in the country and there were no kids to go outside and play with so that wasn't something that could be taken away either. Really the only thing my parents could do was make me stay in my room or sit in a corrner where I would just kick the walls like crazy when I was there.
I'll even give my cats a little swat on the butt if they are doing something bad, not a hit that's going to make them scream or go flying across the room. They also have to be doing something bad like eating the plant, scratching the furnature or the rug, getting on the counters and things like that. They also get a warning first. I notice now that when they get that warning they stop what they are doing.
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Many of the anti-spankers still see a swat as abuse.
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Coming from an adult abused as a child (head slams, clothes lined, etc..):
If a child is spanked 150 times in 30 minutes, then they are getting 5 swats per minute or .08 swats per second. I doubt that this is actually humanly possible BUT if so, IT IS ABUSE and should be reported to the local Child Protective Services by the family member who is continuing to witness the abuse.
If the child is getting, each and every time, 10-20 swats out of pure anger of the adult (and we know what is pure anger)... then IT IS ABUSE and should be reported to the local Child Protective Services by the family member who is continuing to witness the abuse.
We can all "witness" what we all, personally, consider abuse but very few of us will pick up the phone and call the law or take the child to the authorities to get help, or stand up to the family members to make it stop. We all, just "witness" and judge and critique and label.
Now, I realize I'm new here and I've stepped into the fray... but so many are so quick to judge what is abuse and what isn't, and many are quick to point it out and to describe it on message boards and whatnot... but so few of those so many are actually willing to literally step up and follow through on their personal convictions when confronted with reality.
There is abuse, there is punishment and there is discipline. Children are not adults but they are humans.
Not all who were spanked as children grow to be violent abusers with mental disorders... much to the dismay of those who would like to purport it to be true. There are many, never spanked or disciplined nor punished as children, who are violent abusers and/or with mental disorders... funny, how life works out that way.
Some serial killers were given and allowed all and every, as children.. same with some rapists. Life is funny, sometimes.
Meanwhile; if you witness and/or know of a child that is clearly being abused by an adult, because children are human beings after all... and you sit, watch, listen and know of... and continue to judge and walk away...
then you are no more than the one for whom you are sitting in judgment thereof in my opinion.
So word of advisement to everyone: be VERY VERY careful of what we each assess, judge, label or point to or whom...
Peace
If a child is spanked 150 times in 30 minutes, then they are getting 5 swats per minute or .08 swats per second. I doubt that this is actually humanly possible BUT if so, IT IS ABUSE and should be reported to the local Child Protective Services by the family member who is continuing to witness the abuse.
If the child is getting, each and every time, 10-20 swats out of pure anger of the adult (and we know what is pure anger)... then IT IS ABUSE and should be reported to the local Child Protective Services by the family member who is continuing to witness the abuse.
We can all "witness" what we all, personally, consider abuse but very few of us will pick up the phone and call the law or take the child to the authorities to get help, or stand up to the family members to make it stop. We all, just "witness" and judge and critique and label.
Now, I realize I'm new here and I've stepped into the fray... but so many are so quick to judge what is abuse and what isn't, and many are quick to point it out and to describe it on message boards and whatnot... but so few of those so many are actually willing to literally step up and follow through on their personal convictions when confronted with reality.
There is abuse, there is punishment and there is discipline. Children are not adults but they are humans.
Not all who were spanked as children grow to be violent abusers with mental disorders... much to the dismay of those who would like to purport it to be true. There are many, never spanked or disciplined nor punished as children, who are violent abusers and/or with mental disorders... funny, how life works out that way.
Some serial killers were given and allowed all and every, as children.. same with some rapists. Life is funny, sometimes.
Meanwhile; if you witness and/or know of a child that is clearly being abused by an adult, because children are human beings after all... and you sit, watch, listen and know of... and continue to judge and walk away...
then you are no more than the one for whom you are sitting in judgment thereof in my opinion.
So word of advisement to everyone: be VERY VERY careful of what we each assess, judge, label or point to or whom...
Peace