Tell someone you have E on a first date?

[AndrewIrish]

Hey all,

I am going on a 'first date' with someone next week... to elaborate, it'll only be my second 'first date' in my life... was with the wife nearly 9 years... I'm 26... we'll go on dinner (don't know where yet...), but my jerks are aggravated and brought on by eating AND conversation AND nervousness... so chances will be high I might have some 'jerks' during the conversation... if it happens, do I hope she not notice or should I try and explain something like E on a first date? Again, this is only if I'm forced to provide an explanation... if I'm fine around here, I don't plan on telling her until I'm comfortable enough... but in that (very likely) scenario... what do I say?

 

[C0urt]

depending on how bad the myoclonus is you might not have a choice,
just be honest, it pays off in the long run.

 

[arnie]

Better to tell her if you think she is noticing something. Just be very matter-of-fact about it, don't go into a lot of detail, and then move on to a different subject. If she asks more about it, answer the questions, but again, be brief with the answers. The more comfortable you are with it, the more comfortable she will be. You might even want to practice what you will say.
Good luck on the date!

 

[C0urt]

yes keep it simple, if you yell "OH MY GAWD IT BURNS!!!" that might end the date right there.

 

[N Sperlo]

I was just going to say what C0urt and Arnie did.
If you think it is noticeable just say, "Hey this is the deal with the jerks". Then on with the date. Takes five seconds, and things go back to normal.

 

[knothing]

I was set up on a blind date with a girl and she came right out and told me she had nerve damage in an arm and it does not have full function.(before the seizures began for me) I thought okay not sure what the big deal is since she was just matter of fact. We were in the movie and she had to violently jerk back to eat some popcorn and then I understood why and did think twice. We never went on another date but it had nothing to do with that, we just didn't click.
She made it easy for me not to think twice and I would want to go that way if it was me.

 

[Zolt]

If you tell them on the first date, just be prepared never to hear from them again. Been there done that.

The last date i had was with a Chinese girl who was really small, but not overweight, but dang, she ate more food than me. Some women only want a date for the food i think. ha haaha


iano: op:

 

[valeriedl]

In my opinion it's best to be upfront and honest right from the start.

On my very first date with my husband, I was still living with my parents, I told him I had epilepsy before we even left the house. I wanted him to know what I do when I have a seizure and what to do if I did have one.

The main reason was because I'd only had epilepsy for a year and my seizures weren't even close to controlled. I was also having 20 or more a month, they would just pop up out of nowhere with no warning. I didn't want him to run away screaming because he didn't know what was going on and think I just went loco.

Another big reason is that I wanted him to know what he was going to be getting himself into if the first date were to lead into a serious relationship. It wasn't going to be like any run of the mill relationship. I didn't work, couldn't drive, took a ton of meds, didn't want to have children (even though I could) because I have epilepsy and then there was everything else that came along with having epilepsy.

I had my first seizure in front of him a little over two weeks after we started dating. Yes it did scare him! He called my dad (like my dad told him to do if I had a seizure) to see what he should do. My dad told him what to do and call him back when I came out of it. If I didn't come out of the seizure with in 5 minutes to call him back right away. I didn't come out of the seizure and ended up in the ER. My parents were scared that because of this that he was going to be gone. Well years 11 later he's still around