Tired of skirting the law...

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I just moved to Kentucky this weekend. My ohio license was suspended for 2 years (i didnt know) for seizures... 2 weeks ago I got them reinstated 'cuz i hadnt had a tc in nearly 2 years...

i just had another tc this weekend... when I go to get license transferred... I have to lie... I need my license to work... my family thinks I should apply for disability... but that's ridiclous... so i'll be asked this week when i transfer if ive had a seizure in the last 90 days... i have to lie... i told truth in ohio 2 years ago and had license suspended... my arm is broken... i just left my wife... im living in a motel room with my father... i need my license...
 
Your license and your job won't mean anything if you kill someone, or yourself. Sorry Andrew, i know it's hard, but your family is right, you should absolutely not lie about this. Too much is at stake for yourself and for others.
 
Getting a license would be very selfish on your part. You would only be thinking of yourself and not the persons you could hurt or even kill. I suggest you reconsider your actions! :soap:
 
I feel for you man. It is so tough when both ways are the best way but opposite nonetheless. I have a hard time being straight with the docs AND the law. I was able to keep my license but quit driving, it has been great, save a fortune, get exercise and no one is at risk. So what can you do? though call
 
driving and seizind don't mix along with killing someone else u can kill ur self.

I've been on disability for yeary and I've never driven. Is there public transitsportation were u live?
 
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Sounds like you are under a lot of stress from what you're going through. Could that be why your seizures started again? Do you have a counsellor or someone to talk it through with?

I really don't think any of us should judge each other on here, we are all coping the best way we can. It is easy to say get public transport or get help from others when some people aren't able to access that. When we are desperate and in a state of crisis it's very difficult to think clearly and rationally. I don't think you're being selfish to be thinking of not reporting it. I am in the same situation at the moment unfortunately and it has certainly crossed my mind. It is so, so hard and life will be much much more difficult.

Ultimately I just think, how will I be able to live with myself if I hurt my son or someone else, and the answer is, I would never be able to live with that. I hope you come to a decision you can live with and that you stay safe. Take care.
 
I really don't think any of us should judge each other on here, we are all coping the best way we can. It is easy to say get public transport or get help from others when some people aren't able to access that. When we are desperate and in a state of crisis it's very difficult to think clearly and rationally. I don't think you're being selfish to be thinking of not reporting it. I am in the same situation at the moment unfortunately and it has certainly crossed my mind. It is so, so hard and life will be much much more difficult.

I am in the same situation, too. I do have access to public transportation now, not the best, but it does help. I can't carry home my groceries, tho, so have to ask friends. When there is a blizzard here, I don't have access to the public transportation and I so badly want to drive again. I would be tempted but I don't have a car now. Here it is 6 months seizure free and I had gone that long before I drove again, crashing into a wall while having a seizure. It had been over a year. Thank god, no one but my car was injured, except I do have neck problems from it.

Ultimately I just think, how will I be able to live with myself if I hurt my son or someone else, and the answer is, I would never be able to live with that. I hope you come to a decision you can live with and that you stay safe. Take care.

Now, when I so badly want to drive again and wish I had my car, I do think of the "What if"? How could I live with myself if I had hit someone else and killed them or their child while I was driving and had a seizure? I could not live with that.
 
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@AndrewIrish

I'm 22 years old, and I live in Arkansas with less than 3000 people. I've no education, and never had a driver license even though my seizures only started happening a few years ago. I found out the only way to change my life is through education. I'm working on getting a GED (of course I'm slacking) but I'm going to try and get it within 6 months. After that, there is only one choice and that's community college which is 2 miles away. At least now that I live in town I can walk there unlike living in rural area with town being 9 miles away. I want to attend a 4 year university, but I cannot (no transportation). So, I suppose once I'm done with that I'll move to another state with good public transportation and only 6 month restriction or something on driving. I was thinking of California, perhaps there I can get a job while studying. I can't live in Arkansas for the rest of my life, because I hate it here and there's nothing for me to do. With epilepsy, my neurologist says I pretty much have it for life. Even thought it may be controlled, at some point in my life I may have another, and that means if I even drive I will not be able to for another year with no ability to get around so I really do need to get out. I can't afford to, but I need to find a way. I can't stand being home like this, and I won't be able to stay like this for the rest of my life, my parents even hates the idea but it's my life! Still, at this minute I have no money or a way to move out so until I finish community college, and able to use student loans & get a job then I'm stuck here...

I really want and need to drive, and I cannot pick up my glasses at the moment since all of my relatives are working all the time. So, I'm pretty much stuck in my room all day long these days. It's difficult to live without your license. I think you need to see a specialist in epilepsy, to see about getting your seizures under control. If you really need to, then consider to moving to a state where it's only 6 months minimum to get your license with good public transportation if you can.

I know you don't want to hear this. I can understand, my relatives would probably do the same as you would. It's hard, I get it, and you need to work. There is a reason they take it away, to protect others from your medical condition. It's dangerous to drive when it's uncontrolled. I know you hate the idea of disability, I'm the same way. You are breaking the law by doing this, and if you get caught there will be a chance of you being imprisoned, fined a lot of money, or they suspend your license longer than going without seizures would be. If you injure somebody, then you may end up in prison for a longer time. I am not a lawyer, but I think it's safe to assume this may happen, and I've read something about this happening. At least call social services, and ask for help...
 
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He should have been charged with murder but he is getting by with very little punishment for what he did. Let alone he can get his licence back in 20 years if he meets qualifications. He should never be able to drive again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This enrages me. People need to think more about the families than the epileptic driver!
 
public transport isnt an option... i commute too far and likely always will... decent jobs are in the cities.. cost of living in cities is too high... im living in a motel room now with my father... separated from my wife... i am the only person in my family with a car or a license... my father catches a ride to his job oor bus... its hard... how am i expected to live?
 
Any chance your father could get his license, drop you off at work (or at least drop you off where public transportation can take you the rest of the way) and then carry on to his own job? Can you ride your bike to where someone else lives (or again, to the public transit starting point) and ride the rest of the way with them? Can you get a taxi part of the way and continue the rest of the way with a friend/colleague?
 
AndrewIrish, I know exactly where you are at. My last and present job, a drivers license is required (present job knows I'm up for one shortly). While presently I due not have drivers license, I am up for one in a month; but, when in the midst of a major flu last weekend, I had a major (for me) seizure. I'll be back at my doctor and he is going to ask if I,ve had a seizure... I know I'll have to say yes because it is what is right, but also the hospital knows. While the drivers license place most likely wouldn't contact the hospital, if they did find out about it, I doubt I'd ever be able to get a license again.

Also as others have mentioned, what if we were to seriously injure or kill someone else? And prison? I do hope for you, things come best...
 
Laws are laws. They are there to protect all people. If you don't abide by them you are foolish and selfish. !Mostl
Driving while having epilepsy is like driving drunk. You never know whats going to happen. Others find a way everyday to get around(walk, bicycle, take jobs they don't want but will pay so they can use this type of transportation). May not be the one you want but that's life!
 
Sometimes things seem difficult until you get used to them. I've always had to live close to work or work close to where I live. I've also taken trains two hours to work and two hours back for two years, and I still travel four hours to see my doc every month, not counting my neuro visits. When I think about it in those terms, it sucks, but if I just accept it, well, it's just life.
 
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