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Hi all,
I had my 1st attack that landed me in the ER w/tests galore 2 weeks ago, and had another smaller one last Friday. I'm 28, and have no known history of seizures before. Luckily my seizures haven't been too catastrophic, but my EEG was abnormal so I'm being treated by a neurologist & am taking Lamictal.
My youngest sister was diagnosed with epilepsy about 3 months ago after having a series of strong seizures over few months. Hers have been much more severe, many meds have not worked and repeated tests haven't shown much. She is obviously stressed, scared & frustrated.
I've always been strong & supportive for my entire family (and we're a big family-- I'm the oldest of 5). I rarely seek out emotional support, as I have a guilt complex about burdening my family. My dad just had bypass surgery, obviously my sister is going through some tough stuff so when I had my first episode, I really debated whether or not to tell them. But, I figured they're my family and they should know. That was a big mistake.
My first day home, I had to listen to my dad tell me how I'm "stealing" attention from him & my sister, that my family thinks I brought this on myself b/c of alcohol and/or drugs (I haven't done any hard drugs in well over a year, and had no alcohol the night in question), that I faked the whole thing and basically, how dare I add more stress to our family. He hung up on me & left me in tears.
I know he is stressed out w/his own health issues & is worried about my little sister, and I never meant to add to his stress (like I said, stressing out my family is something I avoid at all costs). Since that night, my 3 sisters have basically stopped talking to me as well. According to my dad, my epileptic sister (who I went to for support & understanding) thinks I'm totally out of line for comparing notes, commisserating, etc, with her over "her" illness. Seriously, they can HAVE the attention-- I sure as hell don't want this!
Against my better judgement, I told my dad about last Friday's attack. I was met with the same response, in which he repeated all the same stuff and also confirmed my fears that yes, my sisters are not talking to me b/c they think I am doing this all for attention. He hung up on me again.
I'm not asking my family for anything more than to be treated the way I was before this: going to dinner together, phone calls just to say hi, etc. Now I am just ignored by my sisters & guilt tripped by my dad. My mom (in another state) and brother have been fine, but it still hurts :*(
I had my 1st attack that landed me in the ER w/tests galore 2 weeks ago, and had another smaller one last Friday. I'm 28, and have no known history of seizures before. Luckily my seizures haven't been too catastrophic, but my EEG was abnormal so I'm being treated by a neurologist & am taking Lamictal.
My youngest sister was diagnosed with epilepsy about 3 months ago after having a series of strong seizures over few months. Hers have been much more severe, many meds have not worked and repeated tests haven't shown much. She is obviously stressed, scared & frustrated.
I've always been strong & supportive for my entire family (and we're a big family-- I'm the oldest of 5). I rarely seek out emotional support, as I have a guilt complex about burdening my family. My dad just had bypass surgery, obviously my sister is going through some tough stuff so when I had my first episode, I really debated whether or not to tell them. But, I figured they're my family and they should know. That was a big mistake.
My first day home, I had to listen to my dad tell me how I'm "stealing" attention from him & my sister, that my family thinks I brought this on myself b/c of alcohol and/or drugs (I haven't done any hard drugs in well over a year, and had no alcohol the night in question), that I faked the whole thing and basically, how dare I add more stress to our family. He hung up on me & left me in tears.
I know he is stressed out w/his own health issues & is worried about my little sister, and I never meant to add to his stress (like I said, stressing out my family is something I avoid at all costs). Since that night, my 3 sisters have basically stopped talking to me as well. According to my dad, my epileptic sister (who I went to for support & understanding) thinks I'm totally out of line for comparing notes, commisserating, etc, with her over "her" illness. Seriously, they can HAVE the attention-- I sure as hell don't want this!
Against my better judgement, I told my dad about last Friday's attack. I was met with the same response, in which he repeated all the same stuff and also confirmed my fears that yes, my sisters are not talking to me b/c they think I am doing this all for attention. He hung up on me again.
I'm not asking my family for anything more than to be treated the way I was before this: going to dinner together, phone calls just to say hi, etc. Now I am just ignored by my sisters & guilt tripped by my dad. My mom (in another state) and brother have been fine, but it still hurts :*(