What are possible Reasons Women don't like me?

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I don't understand why women are never ever and have never been attracted to me at all as a friend or date or mate or boyfriend. I'm just a nice guy and that apparently doesn't matter.

I'm happy, nice and passionate about hobbies. But i'm not social, not a gossiper and i keep to myself and i'm disabled and have no career or goals or aspirations or ambitions. i may later get a job as a bagger or something. but that's about it.

What more do they want? I'm not handsome but i'm not terribly ugly.
I dont have Phds and Masters but i write ok. That doesn't seem to matter though. Women want great accomplished men.
 
First of all, do even read any of the advice the folks here have very kindly taken the time to pass your way? There have been some excellent ideas for you to help yourself, but there is usually no indication that you have even read them. If there is something someone wrote in response to something that you posted that you don't understand, or that you want more details on, then ask.

Women like men (and vice versa) who have friendly personalities and who have confidence in themselves. Women like men who have some interests in things besides their own hang-ups and limitations, and men who have interesting things to talk about . . . this is something easy to develop: take community courses such as in art, cooking, health and fitness, etc., learn about interesting things in your community, attend free seminars or community meetings, go to the live theater or movie theater, volunteer - at a local hospital or youth group, for example.

I've gone through graduate school, yet my some of my closest friends did not even go to college and work in low-paying jobs. So why do I consider them friends: they care about other people and the world around them, they have a variety interests and hobbies, they don't constantly talk about their life problems, and they make me happy. Heck one of my best (older) friends never even went to school beyond the fifth grade because of a need to help support his family after his father died. Yet he didn't let that stop him: he would read National Geographic magazines cover to cover to learn about the world, he built his own two-story house in the woods with NO help and NO machinery, he taught himself how to build a well, a sewage receptacle, and vegetable garden.

You had the advantage of going to college, so why is your biggest aspiration to be a bagger? You never did say what your college degree was in. If you offer that information, perhaps someone here might be able to suggest ideas for jobs. Others have also made suggestions on how to return to college for further education.
 
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You keep posting about why you can't get a job or why girls don't like you. You do realize you can meet people online right? Just join a dating site if you don't want to go out to meet people. If you have a degree, you maybe able to work for tutoring websites online and help students who are in school. You even get paid for it! If you want I can PM you the link for the tutoring website I work for.

and please, like masterjen said, read our posts before posting threads on the same topic.
 
Well go back to school and learn how to talk. They have public speaking classes at community colleges and other similar classes. While you are there take other classes you may enjoy. If you're older, take the night classes.

Just even a Hi to someone can open doors. Then think of something quick to comment on. If you can't think of something good that relates to her, comment on how nice the weather is. Even if it's raining. :)


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I like myself cathy. But the women want exciting guys who talk alot and i am disabled and can't talk.
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I never wanted an exciting guy! I just want your average guy. I actually don't think guys that are made of muscle are attractive. Ones with a little bit of meat on their bones is good looking. Bald guys are really sexy to me. My husband's got a full head of hair and I know he's never going to loose it. My husband talks a ton and it drives me crazy. I don't think he even knows how to not talk! Usually a guy who is very smart will always correct you about things, and I don't want a guy telling me what I'm doing wrong all the time.

If I just went by what I consider a perfect guy then I'd probably still be looking.

Can you physically 'not talk' or do you just have problems talking to other people?

If you can talk then get out there and start talking to people. If you're at a store and see someone picking food off the shelf at a store ask them if it's something good because you've never had it. If you have eaten it before tell them that you like it. If someone has a shirt on with a sports team ask them how the team did that year or that you like that team. If the shirt has a bands name on it ask them something about them, like what type of music they play or if you know the band then bring up a discussion about it.

If you're at some sort of restaurant, even if it's McDonalds, listen to what the person in front of you orders then say something about it. Tell them that you've never tried it and want to know if it's good or if you have tried it then tell them that you like it. I'll be at an actual sit down and eat restaurant where you have a waiter and ask them what they would suggest to eat. When I do that the waiter will usually talk to me a good bit while I'm there, asking me if I like what I ordered and telling me what I should try next time I come in.

If there's a coffee shop around you, even if you don't drink coffee because they have several different types of drinks, that's a good place to start conversations. Ask someone if they've tried a certain drink that you see on the menu and ask if it's any good.

Sure people may not want to have a conversation with you, it happens to me, but get out there and keep doing it.

I met my husband when I was out once. I heard him mention a band that I like and we started talking about them. We found out that there was something that we had in common.

Stop calling yourself 'disabled'. You make it sound like you are strapped to a wheel chair drooling on yourself. If you consider yourself 'disabled' because you have epilepsy that's fine but if you keep TELLING YOURSELF you as disabled as you describe then you are only going to get worse and worse.

And yes there are so many people who have given you advice about all the problems you have. Do you even want addvice or do you just want us to feel sorry for you? Do you even bother to read them or do you just start other threads going on and on about how many problems you have in your life? Most of the threads you start even deal with the same topic so you must not be reading anyone's replies. You just want to keep telling and thinking that you have problems and not try to change.
 
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We've answered this question in a number of threads you've started on the same topic. Maybe you're not happy with the responses?
 
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