Last time I told my doctor my current cocktail (not the good kind) was not working, she prescribed felbatol, without telling me about the side effects! Fortunately, I have self-preservation, and access to the internet, so I did not switch. I don't know if that was to punish me for complaining or what. My practice is to tell the doctor what I need, have them give me the prescription, do my own research on it, and weigh the risk/benefits myself before applying it. If I don't like the what I find, I just tell them I changed my mind. I am polite, but I am extremely noncompliant, unless they do (I have a 2 person team) what I want. Usually we are on the same page, so this isn't a problem. However, I am starting to feel like the detrimental effect of what I am taking compared to the benefit is not starting to be worth it. Unfortunately, I have been through pretty much everything they have to offer. I only see them once every 9 months, about. Also, I did not stop doing a lot of dangerous stuff, myself. But I do not have the option of going off of my meds.
I don't know how many doctors you have been through, or how many may be available to you, but finding a new doctor, even though its a pain, might be the best thing. Best of luck.