E and relationships

[graceface]

So I was having a think about this and thought i would just ask;

Epilepsy as some of you have experienced can have an effect on relationships. Some partners get too overwhelmed with seizures, some can't deal with the side effects of your meds, some just can't understand because their not in your shoes and some feel closer because they have been through alot with you. With Epilepsy myself I have experienced some of that and it got me thinking would I date someone with epilepsy? would you?

 

[graceface]

ps i decided i would, it's who they are that's relevant butttt it does put in perspective how hard it can be for whoever I'm dating.

 

[Silat]

I totally would.
It would, from a financial standpoint, likely be more difficult.
However just knowing what your partner is going through, in my opinion, more than makes up for that. Being able to understand each others situation from a deeply personal level, and not just the "oh I understand what it's like from a medical perspective", I feel would be worth the added struggles it may bring along with it.

 

[Nakamova]

I would have no problem dating someone with E. After all, that's nearly 3 million folks in the US, and 50 million worldwide -- that's lot of folks to take off your dance card!

I have friends and family who are partnered with folks who have serious illnesses. They committed to one another with full-knowledge of all that might entail. I guess I'm a romantic at heart, and feel that love can make many things irrelevant or at least easier to bear in some ways (and perhaps harder in others).

 

[gigi]

human factor

This is such an individualized situation. Most of us are not super heroes, and people split up all the time due to illness. Like other issues or a crisis in a relationship, it changes the dynamics. Love can blind us to potential situations that stress the bond between us. My spouse and I both brought health issues to the table, which has affected our finances and intimacy on all levels. Not easy, but worth the ride. That sickness and in health, for better or worse has it's challenges for sure! My husband has enough patience for the both of us, lucky for me! :bigsmile:

 

[Ker-stee]

My partner has only ever known me with e. I feel bad for worrying my oh when I'm Ill etc but they don't seem to mind... Thy even come to hospital appointments with ne

 

[SlimBlue]

I'm ashamed to say it may have been an issue before (though having never known someone with epilepsy, I can't say exactly what I'd have done for love) and that's just pure human selfishness

One of the benefits of having epilepsy has made me a lot more tolerant to the needs of others, and I've found this has completely changed my outlook on life for the better. I certainly wouldn't let a mere condition stand in the way of true love anymore

Besides, as others have mentioned too- having that extra deep bond based around such an intimate but now shared experience would be the most coolest thing you could add to any relationship :rock:

 

[RunningGirl85]

I don't think it would stop me. The hardest part, I think, would be dealing with any moodiness from medication. But I might be saying that cause I'm on Keppra and after my first seizure.they put me on it... I had a bf at the time who was super sweet and supporrtive at first, but I think lost patience with my constant emotional state. But we had only been together six months, so who knows. I know if I found out my current bf had epilepsy, I would be just fine with thay and would probably want to help out as much as I could because that's the type of person I am -most of the time

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[C0urt]

my gf has trust issues, and has known me for nearly a decade,
she knew me back when i was a motorcycle mechanic who was always out and didnt sleep much. so the fact I spend most of my time at home reading books and not feeling good has yet to sink in.

 

[graceface]

its yet to sink in after ten yrs??

 

[C0urt]

she was looking for something to cry and moan about that night I think.
I hate to admit it, when things are too nice, some people go out of their way to look for something to cry about.
not her fault persay, some people are not used to things going too well

 

[graceface]

i dnt understand thought that it's yet to sink in that your lifestyle has changed because you have epilepsy, surely after ten years she understands why?

 

[C0urt]

yes i got grief for not taking her out to see my friends, or that we never go out much, that we just sit at home and watch movies and i read books. granted part of that is, i dont do anything that takes my full attention or anything until she leave because of the amount of attention she requires or ask for sometimes. I make it a point to pay attention to her when she is in my apartment. at least to a degree.

and I dont leave much if i dont feel good or am drowsy from my medicine or just from the epilepsy.

she has known for for around 10
i have had epilepsy for 7
we have dated for around 2
we have lived together for around 1

she wants some things to be certain ways, and some things are not an option. even less so as i cope with my epilepsy

 

[graceface]

ahh om i getchya, i thought you meant you had been together ten yrs and she was having a hard time understanding hoe your epilepsy changed your lifestyle

 

[Aneka]

I've been fortunate to have known my other half before I was diagnosed with Grand Mal, Petit Mal & Complex Partial seizures, thankfully he loves me regardless, besides we've been through too much together.... (tho I can't help but think sometimes he's with me, because he met me healthy & would feel guilty leaving me like this, he keeps telling me it's all in my head) My problem is, I feel like I'm such a burden to my loved ones. That's the hardest part for me to overcome.