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Since my car accident, and subsequent increases in the number of FDGB episodes I've had, I have basically not been going anywhere by myself.

Hubby drives me to school, hangs around outside my classes (or sits in, in some cases), drives me home, etc.

We had a bit of an issue about my going to Victoria for a special summer school program - but that resolved itself when my sister decided she wanted to come with me.

I'm also going to be attending a couple of weeks of summer school at my own University - which he's not SO comfortable with, but since its familiar territory, I'll be staying in residence, and some of my classmates & profs will be there - he seems resigned to it....but not at all happy about it.

And today I signed up for a conference in yet another city and he is SO not impressed with me for thinking that I can go by myself.

He would quite cheerfully continue doing everything with me.. .but he works seasonally and April --> October is the season. He keeps offering to take time off and go with me everywhere...but boss is highly unlikely to appreciate that... and besides, much as I love him, I don't WANT to be so darned dependent on him.

I am hoping that seeing the doctor next week, and hopefully starting to at least work towards a diagnosis will help - but any advice to help him calm the heck DOWN would be much appreciated.
 
Sorry ...I've been using it for so long I don't even think about clarifying it

When my problems first started (April 2007) we thought I was fainting... it is only recently that they have become more seizure-like.
 
Honestly, until you have gone to the doctor, your fdgb episodes are diagnosed, and it's being treated successfully, he won't calm down. Trust me...my hubby didn't, and neither did the MIL. They've only started letting me sleep with my door closed the last week. Trust me...it bugs the heck out of me. I thoroughly resent being babysat. I understand that they are worried, especially with me pregnant...but still. So trust me, I know how you feel. *chuckle* The only time I'm allowed to go out alone is if I'm pissed off...go figure. Any way...I think your best bet is going to be to be very careful when you are out on your own and try to build the hubby's comfort level up. You could start by asking him to meet you after a class about an hour after the class is done. Just take that hour to unwind, and tell him, you just need some "me" time. Explain calmly that you just need some alone time. Some time to just sit and enjoy the flowers or whatever...but just some time alone. If you start with baby steps, you might be able to build up to him being more comfortable. If you have a cell phone he can call you on , that will help...as will wearing a medic alert type bracelet. Good luck.
 
I am wearing a bracelet ... he checked that I had it on before he left me at my friend's restaurant for a bit this morning (insert rolling eyes smilie here)
 
He seems to have calmed down a bit about it - I pointed out that it is only before my period that I am really bad and even though now that I am perimenopausal and my schedule is totally whacked and unpredictible, chances are good that it won't be that 4 days...

and if it turns out that it IS, then he can book off work and come with me, or I can take one of my (adult) kids - we can just share my residence room, and there are day passes available at the conference if need be
 
so that one is covered... and my week in Victoria for school, my sister is coming with me

I also have 2 weeks at my uni, but will deal with that

I have not yet pointed out that with the three weeks of summer school stuff in a row the chances of NOT hitting the bad week in that time is pretty slim
 
We'll all be anxious to see what you find out at the neurologist (next week I believe?). Please keep us updated! I'm hoping for clear answers for you.
 
not a neurologist yet.... my family doc referred me to an internist.... up to her about referring me on to a neuro
 
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