Hello ! I'm new here , and to epilepsy too actually , because i have only little experience with this... My boyfriend has already 4 grand-mal seizures (this week was the last) in a 4-5 year period , he'v got his first one with age 28 . 3 of them were night seizures (in sleep) . I have been witnessing 3 of them , and i was Absolutely not prepared for the first one .. it came just out of the blue .. when he screamed in his sleep , i assumed that he had a nightmare , so i switched on the light and ....i thought he is dead !!! It was awful .. I started to cry and scream and run half naked in horror to the neighbors . When i came back with them , he looked like he is agonizing , with bloody foam coming out of his mouth and with wide open scary lifeless eyes , convulsing and making choking noises .. i know .. this is a description of a classical "gran mal" .... , but to me , back than it was so horrific and beyond understanding sight , not knowing , what it is , so i got hysteric and wanted even to jump out the window from despair(we are very in love) . This 5 , maybe 10 minute experience true this seizure , which seamed endless to me , provoked panic attacks , which i had for many months after that . I still have problems to sleep calmly next to him . I jump up in stress from every cough or snore .. He doesn't want to speak with our friends about it , so i feel very lonely in my fears . We don't know what the trigger is . Now on top of all i read about "sudden dead ep. cases" , and i am more scared . I haven't told my friend about it .. because i think its not good for him to worry to much . So i hope to find some answers here , and talk to people with similar experiences and troubles . I'm happy to meet you 
