here's a question for the single people or maybe the unsingle

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Do you think you would be able to date/marry someone who had epilepsy? For me, I would love it, because we could relate with each other so well, but it would be very difficult because seeing someone have a "fit" almost makes me want to go into one. I know its just a mental thing, but if I'm watching a medical show and someone has one, I have to look away until it's over. But, on the other hand, to have a partner that you know how to take care of, and they know how to care of you and you can empathize with and vica versa. It's hard to say
 
I dont think to me, it would matter if that person had Epilepsy or not. As long as they accepted me for who I am, and Ive accepted them for who they are, we both love each other, and have common interests, thats all I really care about. I met my husband back in 2001. It will be 10 years ago in July that we have known each other. He knew about my seizures after talking for a good month or so. We fell in love with each other and he hasnt had any issues with my Epilepsy. He actually has been very supportive in all of it. Taking off a week from work so he can care for our kids when I was in the hospital for my VEEG this year, and he knows what to look for when things can go downhill for me with my epilepsy.
 
When I first started going to the doctor 4 years ago and trying to explain that something was very wrong, and I was so tired like never before, and could not get any of them to help-they just kept saying I was depressed or having pre-menapause! I knew that was not the problem. After a while I took their anti-depressents, and hormones, even though my estrogen level was normal, because I was desperate to feel better. Well none of it worked! I still woke up several times a night, had awful night sweats, kept having these weird episodes, and thought I was falling asleep all the time! My husband thought I was losing my mind, and filed for divorce, after 25 years of being married. When I finally was diagnosed, and got meds. The first night I took medicine, I slept through the night for the first time in 4 years! Within a couple of days, I started to feel like myself, and felt like I was waking up from a horrible dream. My sister asked how I was feeling on facebook a few days later, and a guy she went to school with saw the post, and started talking to me. He has seizures from an accident. It was wonderful talking to him-he has helped me by answering a lot of questions, and understands what I am going through. A couple of weeks later I went on my first date, since I was 17! Yes, I would date somebody with seizures. You have somebody who will at least understand and support you
 
I would definitely date someone with epilepsy. Though I'd feel it's a bit inconvenient if we both can't drive during the same time period. I'd just love to have a husband who can drive.
 
well even though i have epilepsy i can drive, but maryland isn't real strict against us. only have to be seizure free for three months and doctors aren't obligated to report seizures to the mva. plus, overall compared to most people with epilepsy if you look at the big picture i'm pretty well controlled. i've only had about.......20-30 in the 10 years that i've been diagnosed
 
I'm actually presently starting to see someone (else) with seizures. I asked her how on earth she got a CDL to drive an 18-wheeler and she said her's were never officially diagnosed, to put it short.
 
I'd definitely be able to date/marry someone that had epilepsy as long as she had seizures under control. Not necessarily being in remission, but only having a few every so many months.
 
ok well it seems like everyone would be able to. me personally i think it would be really difficult. i would love to because they could understand what im dealing with and coulda help me and i could help them. however, if they would happen to seize in front of me im afraid instead of being able to help them, just seeing it would throw me into one
 
Cute suggestion, but take a first aid -or better yet First Responder course- if you can. I think it's rather cute when I see someone having one or come out of one myself and I can say to people around -especially other E.M.S. guys: "I'm a First Responder. I've also had these myself all my life." The look on their face many times has been priceless! :)
 
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