I really hate it when people ask how you're doing as a courtesy but don't really want to know how you're doing. I've answered that question before to some people and then they just try to avoid me or leave the conversation. Ask what you (generally speaking) really care to hear and not just say a whole bunch of fluff to be polite. But seriously I'd like to know how you all are doing?
How are you doing?
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Loopy Lou
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That makes me think of whenever i'm over in Ireland. If you see someone who you know but are only really acquaintances they'll say "hi, how's it going?" and then carry on walking lol. It's just the way it is there though.
Im not too bad today, thanks for asking
Well, two shifts at work, washing machine broke so done two lots of hand washing, got poop on my trainers at work, split up two arguments, then left my phone behind and panicked because i then had no contact with anyone if i needed it.
Despite all that i'm feeling pretty good since St Patricks day is only a week away and i have 10 days off work as of now lol. How are you doing?
Im not too bad today, thanks for asking
Well, two shifts at work, washing machine broke so done two lots of hand washing, got poop on my trainers at work, split up two arguments, then left my phone behind and panicked because i then had no contact with anyone if i needed it.Despite all that i'm feeling pretty good since St Patricks day is only a week away and i have 10 days off work as of now lol. How are you doing?
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I hate it sometimes too!
I know that when my close friends and close family ask they really want to know. They know that I will have seizures when I'm not at home and do goofy things sometimes during them. We'll usually get a good laugh about it.
When other people ask how I'm doing and if I've had any seizures recently I think they do it they don't really care but are just trying to be nice. I might tell them when the last one was and what I did during it. Most of them I have at home but I had one recently where I just sat down indian style in a department store and stayed there for about 5 minutes until I came too enough for my husband to get me out of the store and into the car.
The person will say "Oh, that's horrible! I can't believe you did that in a store"
Well sorry but I can't control when and where I have them and I've had enough in public places now that it isn't horrible anymore for me.
My husband and I were going to go out on a date the night I had the seizure in the store, dinner in a nice resturant and a movie. One of my friends made a joke out of it and said "That's one way for him to get out of seeing that movie the didn't want to see!"
That makes me think of whenever i'm over in Ireland. If you see someone who you know but are only really acquaintances they'll say "hi, how's it going?" and then carry on walking lol. It's just the way it is there though.
Im not too bad today, thanks for asking
Despite all that i'm feeling pretty good since St Patricks day is only a week away and i have 10 days off work as of now lol. How are you doing?
What do you work as? I know that panicky feeling. I always carry my cell phone incase of an emergency. The brew is pretty big in Ireland, huh? Sounds like fun. As long as it doesn't get carried away or conflict with the meds.
Loopy Lou
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I'm a support worker for adults with learning disabilities. Though trying to get out of it 
The job is good but the company is.... just awful!
My mum called my phone when she realised i wasn't answering texts, and obviously someone at work picked up, so she drove all the way up there and dropped it off to me!
I'll be celebrating Paddy's Day in England this year but at least most of the family is here! I can hold my grog pretty well but i don't like to tempt fate if i'm either on my own or out in public, so it will be mostly soft drinks for me. It's also the final of the six nations rugby and it's down to Ireland to bring England down a peg or two. Ireland v England on Paddy's Day? Would be soooooo embarrassing if we lost!
The job is good but the company is.... just awful!My mum called my phone when she realised i wasn't answering texts, and obviously someone at work picked up, so she drove all the way up there and dropped it off to me!
I'll be celebrating Paddy's Day in England this year but at least most of the family is here! I can hold my grog pretty well but i don't like to tempt fate if i'm either on my own or out in public, so it will be mostly soft drinks for me. It's also the final of the six nations rugby and it's down to Ireland to bring England down a peg or two. Ireland v England on Paddy's Day? Would be soooooo embarrassing if we lost!
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Normally I give a standard answer if people ask me how I am doing. That is easiest. Unless it is someone who I am close to. And I hate to leave my phone also, Loopy! That is awesome that your Mom went and got it for you.
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Thank you for asking Cordero.
Very recent confirmation of Hippocampal Sclerosis has got me pretty sad/scared/irritable/bitchy/miserable/scared again. Working great for me and the bf =(
...but interestingly enough that you say it, you're so right, when people ask how are you it's just so much easier to throw out the big smile and say 'GREAT!' than tell the truth... and half the time that's what I do with him 'cuz I get exhausted talking about the same things over and over, esp. when it's to someone who just doesn't understand.
Sooo... long story short lol... trying to hold my own but feeling fairly shitty, cry a lot. DON'T want surgery.
How are you??
Very recent confirmation of Hippocampal Sclerosis has got me pretty sad/scared/irritable/bitchy/miserable/scared again. Working great for me and the bf =(
...but interestingly enough that you say it, you're so right, when people ask how are you it's just so much easier to throw out the big smile and say 'GREAT!' than tell the truth... and half the time that's what I do with him 'cuz I get exhausted talking about the same things over and over, esp. when it's to someone who just doesn't understand.
Sooo... long story short lol... trying to hold my own but feeling fairly shitty, cry a lot. DON'T want surgery.
How are you??
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Cordero...I am so afraid that if I answered you truthfully you would read this and think "wow! sorry I asked" lol All in all things are good, we have to move forward and some days thats easier than others, but something everybody here understands like qtowngirl stated.
The lady at the grocery store asked me the other day "Hi, how are you?" and my reply was "shitty, how bout you?" She just looked at me with big eyes and jaw dropped. Think she was just used to the normal "fine/good". It was definately funny.
How are you doing? And yes, I do want to know.
The lady at the grocery store asked me the other day "Hi, how are you?" and my reply was "shitty, how bout you?" She just looked at me with big eyes and jaw dropped. Think she was just used to the normal "fine/good". It was definately funny.
How are you doing? And yes, I do want to know.
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Ha, good one, sometimes you just have to be honest ey.Cordero...I am so afraid that if I answered you truthfully you would read this and think "wow! sorry I asked" lol All in all things are good, we have to move forward and some days thats easier than others, but something everybody here understands like qtowngirl stated.
The lady at the grocery store asked me the other day "Hi, how are you?" and my reply was "shitty, how bout you?" She just looked at me with big eyes and jaw dropped. Think she was just used to the normal "fine/good". It was definately funny.
How are you doing? And yes, I do want to know.
I've done that a few times... 'Actually pretty crappy... you?' ...and I got a surprised response as well.
Like what, does everyone on earth think everyone on earth is actually 'GOOD!' all the !*%*! time ??
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I'm feeling good today, just applied for a job at a vets. It's really rare they come up. It's only as a general assistant, part time (i need part time anyway), but i did two years vet science at college and it's about time i put it to use. Fingers crossed!
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GOOD LUCK Loopy Lou!!!! I always thought working in a vet office would rock - for one thing having furry clients would make the days so much more fun!
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Oh my goodness! That's always tricky with friends (maybe I should say "friends")
If it's a stranger or mere acquaintance, I just stick with the old formula. But with friends, I sometimes make the mistake of thinking they actually want to know. LOL. The last time someone said, "Seriously, how are you?" I thought, "Oh, she said 'seriously' so she must really care." So I told her how I was - not all the gory details, I basically tried to keep it positive-ish - but the truth, which is hard to sugar-coat. I haven't heard from her since. Oh well 
But "I'm fine, thank you. How are you?" is such a common response that it's what is usually taught to students of English as a second/foreign language as a standard greeting. Before my problems began, I was an ESL teacher who worked with beginning/intermediate students, and I had just been working on greetings with one of my classes. When I had my first seizure and was diagnosed with a brain tumor, many of my students called me and asked how I was. Haha! It was so ingrained in me that I responded without thinking, "I'm fine, thank you. How are you?" Of course they were confused. "But the other teacher said you were very sick..." That was a tricky conversation with my sketchy Spanish and their newly acquired English.
valeried,
I can't believe someone would shame you for having a seizure. Sometimes people just don't understand and it's easy to wish that they have some sort of experience to help them understand what it feels like and then maybe it might humble them.
It's hard getting sick and it interfering with quality time with your spouse. That happens to me often but thankfully my husband's understanding enough to deal with it. It sounds like your husband would be too.
I can't believe someone would shame you for having a seizure. Sometimes people just don't understand and it's easy to wish that they have some sort of experience to help them understand what it feels like and then maybe it might humble them.
It's hard getting sick and it interfering with quality time with your spouse. That happens to me often but thankfully my husband's understanding enough to deal with it. It sounds like your husband would be too.
qtowngirl,
It's hard to tell people the same story when things aren't improving. I remember when my situation wasn't cbanging it was a bore to tell the same story but then occasionally something would change.
I had surgery a couple of years ago. I didn't want to but I was running out of options. The seizures still aren't controlled but are better than before. I stayed up all night crying and praying and thinking what the end results could be but doing that helped me prepare emotionally on the day of the surgery. Hopefully you don't have to get surgery but hang in there.
It's hard to tell people the same story when things aren't improving. I remember when my situation wasn't cbanging it was a bore to tell the same story but then occasionally something would change.
I had surgery a couple of years ago. I didn't want to but I was running out of options. The seizures still aren't controlled but are better than before. I stayed up all night crying and praying and thinking what the end results could be but doing that helped me prepare emotionally on the day of the surgery. Hopefully you don't have to get surgery but hang in there.
Kaitybugsmom,
Things don't shock me. I'm pretty shock proof. Sometimes it feels good to unload the emotions anyways.
I've been doing pretty good lately, suprisingly. I haven't had a seizure in a while. I usually have about 5 a month. I'm heartbroken for my daughter, though because she has a cavity that's giving her a toothache and it's a weekend so I can't get her in. Hopefully something will be available on Monday.
Things don't shock me. I'm pretty shock proof. Sometimes it feels good to unload the emotions anyways.
I've been doing pretty good lately, suprisingly. I haven't had a seizure in a while. I usually have about 5 a month. I'm heartbroken for my daughter, though because she has a cavity that's giving her a toothache and it's a weekend so I can't get her in. Hopefully something will be available on Monday.
LoopyLou,
Have you gotten a phone call yet from the job you applied for. How fun to work with animals. How awesome that you have some expertise in vet science. That should work in your favor. I wish sometimes that I finished my child development degree. I think I would have eventually become a kindergarten teacher but I guess that wasn't my calling.
Have you gotten a phone call yet from the job you applied for. How fun to work with animals. How awesome that you have some expertise in vet science. That should work in your favor. I wish sometimes that I finished my child development degree. I think I would have eventually become a kindergarten teacher but I guess that wasn't my calling.
travelbug,
How mean that she never called or talked to you again. When did you have your first seizure and diagnosed with a brain tumor. I can't imagine what it's like to get seizures later in life. I grew up with mine. It was hard because there wasn't enough resources to learn about epilepsy and medications. The Internet wasn't available. The things I know now I wish I had known when I was younger. That would've saved so much grief and pain. Oh well but things worked out.
How mean that she never called or talked to you again. When did you have your first seizure and diagnosed with a brain tumor. I can't imagine what it's like to get seizures later in life. I grew up with mine. It was hard because there wasn't enough resources to learn about epilepsy and medications. The Internet wasn't available. The things I know now I wish I had known when I was younger. That would've saved so much grief and pain. Oh well but things worked out.