How to have fun at little "get togethers" / parties without drinking?

[Azusa]

I'll pass..........

and no.

 

[Luckylukas]

ahhh azusa i know exactly how you feel im in my 20s and have just been told i cant drive after having a tonic clonic the day after getting smashed at a friends. Last couple of wknds i just suck it up and have 3-4 light beers to be social, mind you my best mates know and most the other boys do too. So you think your friends are gonna give you shit?and the others are gonna break your balls if you dont do shots? Sounds like you got no choice but to suck it up all get owned by E!!:mrt:

 

[girlwithadog]

Find a common interest, if you have a hobby look up groups who share the hobby. I was big into partying for the last 11 years until last year when all of this started, and with just growing up (26 now) going to the bars and an occasional party is fun but the most enjoyable thing to do with friends is getting together and doing out hobbies, like going on the river, having a beach day, teaching each other how to see and make flowers, heck we've even gotten together and played scrabble on the iPhone. Most days I much prefer being around my friends when we are sober. We will drink a lot of the time but just sipping not actually trying to get hammered. Movie nights are fun, there are lots of ideas

 

[Azusa]

Find a common interest, if you have a hobby look up groups who share the hobby. I was big into partying for the last 11 years until last year when all of this started, and with just growing up (26 now) going to the bars and an occasional party is fun but the most enjoyable thing to do with friends is getting together and doing out hobbies, like going on the river, having a beach day, teaching each other how to see and make flowers, heck we've even gotten together and played scrabble on the iPhone. Most days I much prefer being around my friends when we are sober. We will drink a lot of the time but just sipping not actually trying to get hammered. Movie nights are fun, there are lots of ideas

:giveup::giveup:

Cannot come up with a response to that

 

[jenbayly17]

Azusa,
I went through this myself in college. I did drink some but it was not ever all that fun because aside from the possibility of having a seizure I would get sick the next morning. When I decided it was not worth feeling bad the next morning my friends appreciated the fact that I could still come with and be the designated driver. If you are not able to meet others that you can have more in common with and your friends won't vary their activities try to enjoy the conversations that you are able to have and remember the next day. it's hard at that time to see the bigger picture sometimes but you would rather have a good time being the non drinker than hurt yourself. :banana:

 

[valeriedl]

I didn't have epilepsy and could drive when I was your age. A we all traded around driving so one person had to drive all the time.

The friends I had did drink and smoke pot. I tried the pot twice and it really didn't do anything for me so I never did it again. I wasn't really a drinker. So if I did drink I only had one or two never got drunk. My friends never had a problem with any of this and never tried to get me to do either at any time. A lot of times we'd all just spend the night at the person's house if there was drinking going on, even if that person wasn't drinking, so nobody had to worry about how they were going to get home till the next day.

Here are some of the things that I used to do.

The high school near us had a sand volley ball court, we spent a TON of time there, and a tennis court that we went to a good bit.

We'd go miniature golfing and regular golf. Get our nails/hair done. Bike riding. A friend had a pool and we'd also go to the local pool. Go hiking or just for a walk.

A friend had a pool table and dart board. We'd go to concerts and movies. We'd spend a good bit of time at a restaurant that was open 24 hours drinking coffee, so we could all hang out there till when ever. I think we played board games too.

We'd go shopping. Either at the local mall, bigger malls or into the city to small shops and eat at the little restaurants there.

Even now, I'm 36, I still go out with friends to bars and other places there is drinking going on. They know I don't drink or drive so there is always someone to drive. Even if it's just me and one other person they may have a drink or two but don't get drunk. Sometimes we will still have a party at someone's house and we'll all just spend the night. I think I have more fun going out to drinking places now and not drinking then.

So, maybe you need some new fiends if you'd rather not ruin the party.
'Cause sometimes those type of friends aren't worth it. My seizures started when I was young (is 23 young in your book?) and back then I was big into partying. But once I started having big time TC seizures and suffered serious injuries from seizures, no more booze and pot. And I found a different set of friends.

I TOTALLY agree with this. Like I said - I didn't smoke pot or drink when I was your age and my friends did but never said a word about it. If these are suppose to be your friends then why should they care? They should like you for you are and not because you get drunk with them.

 

[SlimBlue]

I wish I could 'thank' your post more than once

 

[BrandiBrat]

Are you in Azusa? Hence, the name? I'm in So Cal, too... I know, I'm old lol But I have kids your age and they're cool and although they grew up with a mom that partied they now know what it's like to have a mom with epilepsy that can't party (remember, I'm the awesome beer pong player with apple juice haha). I'd love to introduce you to my kids that are your age, if you're willing. We know how to have a blast, believe me!

 

[C0urt]

find different parties !


actually I just never drank even before I had epilepsy, i am the emergancy DD, but I hate when my friends get that drunk.