Hi AJsmom! Welcome to CWE.
As you've seen, a friendly group. I'm a special ed. teacher out in California. Now, to your questions...I'd suggest getting an advocate, requesting a meeting in writing, and stating in writing that the meeting will be taped. This lets the district know that your not going to be pushed around. You may also find that to avoid the meeting, they back down. Now, lets look at the 3 things that redflagged you.
1. Only medication allowed is a county approved suppository.
-I agree with you. The use of only a suppository med is COMPLETELY unacceptable. There are issues of modesty involved, and when a child is in a state of seizure, they should not be moved and the psychological damage done when a child wakes up to find out that everyone has seen their private parts is totally outrageous. Make sure to point that out to the advocate, as well as your concerns for the sexual safety of your child.
2. Access to medical records and doctor
- As I am not in your state, I cannot say as to whether this is standard practice. Your advocate should know. In California, this is not required. I have grand mals, and the only things I've ever had to give the school was a protocol from my doctor that stated that instead of calling 911 immediately, as per the districts protocols, that the site should call my husband unless my seizures lasted more than 5 minutes or were back to back.
Offer them a compromise. Ask your neurologist to draw up a protocol for the school to use in the even that your child has a seizure at school. Then, offer it to the county. If they refuse it, then at least you can show that you made an effort to meet them half way. Make sure that you have copies of all papers you give them, and that all the papers are signed and dated. (You may need these copies if you file a complaint with the State.) You didn't state whether or not your child has a 504 plan, IEP, or is in Regular Ed. IF she's on a 504 plan or IEP, you could argue that they are not providing her with a Free and Appropriate Public Education. This is major in the world of special ed. Most importantly, I wouldn't give them an open access to her medical records either. Although people who work in schools sign confidentiality agreements, you'd be surprised how quickly things can race through a staff. People tend not to think about careless statements made in the staff lounge or bathroom. The only thing the Health Tech has to have is your doctor's phone number so that they can notify them if the Ativan has been administered, and a letter from the doctor stating that she has a seizure disorder and how to deal with it when she's at school. If they insist on open access to the medical records and won't back down and are within their rights according to your state's laws, then ask that you be notified in writing and vial phone call every time that your childs records are accessed, as well as who accessed them, date, time and who authorized it, as well as each time your daughter's physician is contacted. It's within your rights...and to be quite honest, if you make it an inconvenience for them, they might back down. Good luck!