I am so sorry for her hardship. Its just not fair and a glimpse into how some folks parent. I'm not sure I blame the kid as much as the parents. As a parent, I oversee my children behavior. Let me get a whiff that my kids are being mean to another? and Id fix them right. Just seems some parents want to raise bullies. They don't see them as bullies, they see them as "outgoing". Whatever, its wrong to make anyone feel uncomfortable and they wouldn't like it done to them. We are in NJ. and in NJ we take school bullying very seriously. Every child is guaranteed an safe educational environment, when there is a bully involved, the education level is effected. This child, and for the record, I do have sympathy for the bully. As obviously they are having issues and it seems no one is paying attention or cares enough to help them.
My recommendations are
EVERYTHING in writing. Start and keep a paper trail. In that trail put the school and principal on notice that they have a student with a documented past hostility record that is harassing your daughter and making it impossible for her to concentrate on her work. That your daughter is now a target and you want her safety ensured. Once on notice, They are bound by law to act on it. Call the police each and every time. Put it in writing. IF, after you have notified the school in writing and they have not acted to resolve this issue, you can sue them for civil rights violations. Call the ACLU. They may even help for free. There have been schools that have had to pay out. I know its not the way you probably want to go but Id let that Principal know I have NO PROBLEM getting a lawyer. Sometimes that puts a match under their butt : ) Also here in NJ the school board would have heard you, so obviosly things different by you.
Bullying is no joke. It escalates and leaves many scarred for no reason. I am so glad you are diligent in this matter. If you need help researching the laws of your state/area, let me know and Id be willing to help with research.
I also want to put out there that every kid tends to get bullied at some point. It up to us to teach them how to deal with it as well. Id remind your daughter that even if she didn't have E, mean kids would find something else to pick on.. she's short, tall, blond, green eyes. Some kids just mean. Id encourage her to cement her friendships with others. Having her own lil group will help as well. I know this is hard to watch and go thru but hang in there.
joan*
Courage, discipline, fortitude and integrity can do a great deal to make a woman beautiful.