is hard!!! I have to laugh about it, last night a young military guy who I was chatting with at a little bar seemed pretty interested in me, and I ended up giving him my number (he was so handsome!). I told him I don't drive (without saying why) and he offered me a ride home...if I blew him on the way. :roflmao:
Yeaaaah, I called a cab, and told him to please lose my number. I wonder if that line has ever worked for him before.
I guess finding a man no matter what is hard, but I prefer to have my own car during dates in case I need to make a quick getaway lol.
The search continues, no rush, I'm learning a lot more about the type of man I want and about myself. It will happen when it's supposed to!
Morning Mela,
What an asshole. Guys still really try stuff like that in 2012? Thought they would have learned by now (if she's the type to say yes then that mouth has been everywhere). Ugghh.
As for meeting/being with a guy when you have epilepsy, it is very crucial to find the right personality. And to get to know it WELL and be sure about it before you make any big moves like a place together. I learned the hard way that all the confidence and promises given in the beginning can fizzle when things are at their worst.
They have to drive for us on a regular basis whenever we lose our license (many issues come up ie: what if you work different hours), and if you just want a simple damn coffee from the store, he'll have to get it for you. There will be emotions of all kinds every time there's a big one and you lose your mind for weeks/months (they have to understand there are no limits to how this can make us feel/act when we once again have our life ripped out from under us), and be prepared to handle as a man. a real one.
They have to understand that we can't be 'fixed,' and that's not their role anyway, it's the doctor's. We just need love and support, 500 times over.
And most of all they need to understand that this is for life. It's not going to go away as we age or change our lives, and the hard times will come (but also go) with every seizure. They need to know exactly what a commitment to you is, and the only one that will be worth you even considering building a life with is someone that is WITH YOU ON EVERY TURN. Shares and learns about E with you, comes to dr. appts, holds you in the hospital if you've had one, lets you cry/rant/mope as much as you need to to bring yourself around.
And besides... if he isn't
offering to grab you a coffee or anything else you need while you can't do it yourself and he knows it makes you feel like shit... he's not going to be by your side when bigger issues hit the fan.
So... novella aside... take it from me (and others on here will agree), once you've met someone and tell them (I only waited two weeks b/c I was already falling for him)... don't melt into their 'confidence' arms too quick.
And you're right, it will happen when it's supposed to, likely when you're not looking!
