Thank you all for your reply. I feel I am in a place where people really care
They came to know about his epilepsy through a third person. My cousin came to know through a friend (who was also a friend of my fiance's brother). She told her father who told the entire family. So they did not see it to be scared of that scene. Plus my father's own sister has it, so he has seen her having seizures in the past- I thought this is something he should not be so scared of.
As for the doctors thing, I should have replied more in detail, my apologies. They have visited doctors in my home town (doctors they know personally), who after stating all the facts have also told them (on their asking), if it were my daughter, I wouldnt marry her. (For the reason that if your daughter does not have any issue, why would you compromise). So when I tell them I have been to doctors as well , they say the doctors you have been to have no concern with you- they will just do their job. It is again a matter of thinking, which I find it extremely hard to change.
The wedding date was set, some of the invites had also gone out. And they cancelled he wedding. How we are different from the culture is US or Canada again here is, our parents do all the arrangements of our wedding, and they in a way hold it. So that is why they went ahead and cancelled everything (I called up the venue and realized this has happened).
I realize you are right when you say I should litsen to my heart. I think I am just too scared to upset them and go against them, specially worried about my mom who I know will have to bear all the frustration of my father once he is upset.
My fiance thinks I should be confident of my decision and be able to take on my own. My fiance and his family is very supportive. He has been with me through all this emotional drama of my family every single second. He believes in living life to the fullest every moment and has been the reason of me being able to get through all this emotional drama and pressure of my family with ease for the last 6 months.
I have really tried all means to explain to them.As soon as my family started panicking, my fiance immediately offered to share his medical reports. Even though I found it very embarassing, he even offered to get any fresh medical tests done- but my family and relatives just saw this as a desperate measure saying he wont get anyone else to marry that is why he is being nice.
After talking to all of you, I do feel a little stronger about taking a decision to litsen to my heart. I think I need to gather the courage to take a step without my parents and then see.